Resources For Young Adult With Special Needs

momsky · Jan 27, 2017

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Momsky-thanks for your input. I think my cousin has the problem of understanding the concept easily and concentration. Again, its a hearsay-- so don't really know what the real issue is.

I really like the idea of woodwork and carpentry. I will suggest this. Again not entirely sold on photography or painting as he is the kind where people will take advantage of and he lets them.
Once he lost his cellphone to a stranger- the stranger asked him to give his phone to make a call and then the stranger ran away with my cousin phone.
So I think his parents are hesitant to purchase or indulge him in expensive items.
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I suggested painting, photography, etc . so that your cousin can express his emotions and creativity without being scrutinized or criticized. At least this way, he will feel accomplished in his own way; will help boost his confidence; and later on, be his own boss. Once he excels, then his family should help him monetize his artwork through licensing and commission (attending b2b trade shows, Etsy, etc). His family should still work on his people and communication skills at the same time, so when they're gone your cousin can maintain his way of living.

I really wish the best outcome for your cousin. Please read more about Mixed Expressive-Receptive Language Disorder. It is like a mixed of Dyslexia and speech disorder.

Symptoms
The child does not have problems with the pronunciation of words, which is found in phonological disorder . The child does, however, have problems constructing coherent sentences, using proper grammar, recalling words, or similar communication problems. A child with mixed receptive-expressive language disorder is not able to communicate thoughts, needs, or wants at the same level or with the same complexity as his or her peers. In addition, the child often has a smaller vocabulary than his or her peers.

Children with mixed receptive-expressive language disorder also have significant problems understanding what other people are saying to them. This lack of comprehension may result in inappropriate responses or failure to follow directions. Some people think these children are being deliberately stubborn or obnoxious, but this is not the case. They simply do not understand what is being said. Some children with this disorder have problems understanding such specific types of terms as abstract nouns, complex sentences, or spatial terms.

ashima10 · Jan 27, 2017

@blindpup10 no advises for you but lots of prayers for your cousin and family.

blindpup10 · Jan 28, 2017

momsky said: ↑

I suggested painting, photography, etc . so that your cousin can express his emotions and creativity without being scrutinized or criticized. At least this way, he will feel accomplished in his own way; will help boost his confidence; and later on, be his own boss. Once he excels, then his family should help him monetize his artwork through licensing and commission (attending b2b trade shows, Etsy, etc). His family should still work on his people and communication skills at the same time, so when they're gone your cousin can maintain his way of living.
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Momsky- once again great pointers. I never thought about it in the way you have described. Its a great way to get my cousin reintroduced into the society.

blindpup10 · Jan 28, 2017

ashima10 said: ↑

@blindpup10 no advises for you but lots of prayers for your cousin and family.
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Aww thanks a lot ashima. Hugs

sindmani · Dec 6, 2017

blindpup10 said: ↑

Laks- Thanks so much again.

The whole family my aunt's sisters, brother, and uncles are having a sit-down and trying to have an intervention kind of a thing. So, my aunt is fully aware where her son actually stands and what are the options are there for her and her son.

I completely agree, my cousin has been so neglected that he doesn't even know who he is. I doubt the parents will have time for him to take him to the psychologist now. But again as a concerned family member, I can add to the resources and possibility out there for her child.

Yes, this is what my cousins and other aunts spoke about-- ignoring/ sheltering him isn't helping him or the family.
Him watching p*** was the hot topic. My aunt feels he shouldn't see p***.
But come on he is 25 years old guy even with his behavioral issues he can't become a child because my aunts want him to be. I don't know why she doesn't understand that. He is not given internet coz of this reason. I

Everyone grew up by making mistakes and learning from it. Hell 70-year-olds make mistakes, lose money or make bad choices. But somehow this kid is put under so much pressure that he should get things right- is ridiculous.

This is the thing my aunt and her husband don't get. They see that he isn't physically challenged, understands and follows their requests, demands but fails in school work or to make friends and they think "he talks like a duck and MUST walk like a duck" if he isn't he is just lazy or whatever they tell themselves.

I don't know what to call my aunt and her husband negligent/ illiterate/ careless/ not exploring what's out there for their child...??

My parents once suggested my aunt enroll the kid in mountaineering school- where there is the need of physical activity. Both the parents just brushed it aside and never even did anything.

All my other cousins have a life- go to work, run business, party, have a life, go out with gf's, bf's, shop. This kid is so disconnected when we all meet- he has nothing to talk with us except for family drama that he gets to hear from his mom and other aunts/ grandma. The last time I saw him he was so curiously seeing my other cousins leather jacket and asking questions like how much it costs. It was so heartbreaking.

I will make sure to mention this. If you know any psychiatrist please suggest. I will make sure my aunt gets all the info.
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Its an old thread. Did this brother get any help from psychologist.

blindpup10 · Jun 23, 2020

sindmani said: ↑

Its an old thread. Did this brother get any help from psychologist.
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Yes! he did. Don't remember all the details. How the intervention went. But there was loads and loads of family drama involving tears, not talking and finally helping my cousin to get a job.
Not sure, if the family actually diagnosed his mental health. But I know he is working and saving.

joylokhi · Jun 23, 2020

"But I know he is working and saving."
This is itself great to hear. If he is working and able to manage a job, there is nothing better. Appreciate your care and concern through all this.
I have a brother with all the same issues, but due to bad company he keeps(he is living alone ever since my parents passed away) , It has been impossible to bring him around. He does not hold on to any job and is constantly after my other brother and me to provide him for his upkeep, and which we continue to do, knowing it will not help in the long run. But, we have failed in all attempts to set him right and he is around 53 years now!. Our main worry is what will happen to him once we are no more. Upto now, he considers it his right to be cared for by us, and oonly makes demands and rather threatens us too. But we continue to support knowing he will not hesitate to beg, borrow or steel if his demands are not met, and that would lead to bigger issues!.
Sorry for hijacking your thread, but can anyone suggest how we can secure his future financially without handing over the right to him at his stage, as he empties out his bank account the minute we deposit, irrespective of amount and makes further demands!