Resistance to change

Hey!

You implemented it? Wow! Glad that DH is proud.

Mil, well, she's probably feels like it is a criticism of the way she has manage her kitchen all these years. One thing you could do is ask her to accompany you while buying new stuff just to get her involved. Or just ignore what seems to be jealousy...

well done!

 

Without saying it as ..... replacing the existing with clean, neat, best etc.,

 

nothing wrong in what you are doing. keep it up and one day not only your DH but everyone will be proud of you.

 

Its good to bring in some positive changes. But its better to keep everyone together in these changes.

Hoping you are following the same..!!

 

Hi cheenu123,
Everything that u have listed is towards a better kitchen - so there is definitely nothing wrong there. Only thing, personal eating plates, dishes etc, your inlaws may like to continue having steel plates etc. Since u have been doing things over a period, it should not be a problem. You could however, consult your PIL if u plan to replace any of their personal utensils etc. Just my opinion

 

I dont know about your MIL, if she is good, take her to store, show her the items and ask her these are good shall we buy aunty in a requesting tone.

Once at home if someone compliments give the credit to her (get your husband's credits personal)

 

doing something wrong - no
doing something the wrong way - may be

 

Cheenu, you're not doing anything wrong. In fact, you're doing everyone in that house some good. Just be aware that sometimes, older folk are not so accepting of being dragged, kicking and screaming, into the modern age. They might be particularly resistant to change if it is the "upstart" DIL who is trying to usher in a reformation. So, like others have said, if you face resistance, you may have to change your methods slightly. But your cause is, in essence, a good and just one. Don't give up, especially if there are children in the house. It's easier to grow up with good habits than have to change them later.

I'm going to piggyback on your post just to air one of my pet peeves about the Indian diet in some households (including my childhood one). Dhall and potato are not, strictly speaking, vegetables. They are not meat, yes, but in terms of nutrition science, this does not make them vegetables. Dhall is a protein, and potato is considered a starch.

This means dhall stands in or acts as meat (or other non-meat protein, like beans or chickpeas), and potato can stand in for another starch (like pasta, rice, or handmade breads like roti). Just because there is dhall and potato on a plate, doesn't mean it is a balanced meal. Green, leafy vegetables, okra, and colorful root vegetables (butternut, carrot, beets - though these are starchy, too), as well as cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower), among others, are all necessary, too, in combination with starches and proteins, at every meal, in order to eat truly healthily.

It is good to hear you have introduced salad to the table, too. This would help immensely to balance the diets of the people with whom you live. I'm glad your husband is practical enough to see that his wife is savvy and has something worthy to contribute to the way the household is run.

Kudos to you - this is what modern marriage is all about; not strictly maintaining the rigid lifestyles of a hundred years ago, but coming together to live, change, and learn, and make something new and hopefully better.