Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter

OP,
I understand how difficult it must be for you. Please speak to some family members or a close friend and seek help. Can any of them communicate with your husband? The second option for you would be to speak to a Psychiatrist or a counsellor. Most major hospitals will have them or you may meet them in private at their clinics. Talking to others will definitely help you to see the possibilities. In that sense you have made a good beginning. There are also telephonic and online suicide prevention centres. Even they can give you a listening ear and guide you. Where are you located, in India or abroad?

For 6 years how could you keep quiet? At least with your parents or siblings you should have communicated your issues. Just a couple of days ago, a similar issue was discussed. Someone provided helpful links too. Let me try and post that link here. In the meantime, keep a positive outlook and let us hope for some help.

Please check this link: Fed Up Of Life

 

Now, 2 threads of relationships forum chatter & grey matter. One is Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter and this new one.

 

Mistt, OP had posted this under the above under the original relationship...thread as she didn't have privileges. She posted her matter on Sunday and till now there were no responses. So, I requested Cheeniya Sir to create a separate thread so that she gets visibility and responses.

 

Does he have any health issue (incurable!) that he is hiding from you? For the first few months or years, it would be a private matter. Now that the issue has gone beyond the patience limits, you please talk it out. The prime of your life is getting affected and you say that yours is a love marriage; definitely something is amiss.

 

Dear all,
This thread by OP, @sampar has not received any attention because of it's title. Please pour in your POV and suggestions.
@yellowmango, @Brevity, @poovai, @messedup, @SunPa, @DDream ...

 

Usual advises for this are..
Talk to him
Take initiative
Get medical help or counselling - he’s refused
Some even advises to be patient n wait for him to change
- and you have truly tried everything. So no one can say you didn’t try hard or lack of patience.

According to your words, your in laws or parents can’t help you either.

So now the only option left is for you to take control of your own life. If you are contemplating suicide for a person who doesn’t care about you, why not ‘Power up’ for yourself n your kid n live strong.

Get a job n get financial freedom, you can also get a job in a different city. This freedom n distance might either fix your marriage or make things clear for you about your marriage about whether it will ever be fixed or if it will never change. Then you can decide what to do. N if you are living in a different city or country, you also get extra freedom. Show your child that you are a strong mother n not a person who’s scared of life or living.

 

Op.... please get some help first.
Find a doctor to help you with depression .
Anyone in your place would be depressed too.
Once you feel better ,then you can start thinking about the rest.

For the sake of your little child, get some help.
Till then talk to your parents.
Why are you not talking to them ?
They are your parents?
Tell them about how you are feeling and having bad thoughts. Go to them and spend some time with them.
They will be thankful that you are seeking their help.
Talk to them.Talk to your siblings.

 

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