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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

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  1. Viswamitra

    Viswamitra IL Hall of Fame

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    Prayers are the only option at this stage. Let us all pray for her to pass through that disturbing thought just like any other negative thought. She described herself as a very positive human being until a year ago and I am sure she would survive this trivial trouble and laugh about it at sometime in the near future.

    I don't think administrators can do anything on this matter. If she is brooding over this thought all day since morning, she really seriously need to call a suicide prevention hotline or seek some help immediately.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    If you look at her previous threads,she rarely ever responds immediatly or within a few posts.
    Sometimes takes days and sometimes does not post.
    I am assuming more out of lack of privacy or opportunity.
    I hope she posts soon.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I don't know about that. Prayers might help us and Thyagi, not her.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Ragzy, meri pyaari ragzy, meri jaan, I am OP of this thread. Can you por favor post a link to thread you had in mind or at least not say "this OP" :grinning:

    Not many will read previous posts and get the connection.
     
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    This level of cynicism is not normal.

    This forum is meant for women and their issues.

    When a young woman who is a regular member posts an alarming call for help ,the kind thing to do is to offer advice if possible ,or just pray for them to have a saner moment , if one has no advice to give.

    What is the worst ....that it s a vent ?
    We all hope so.

    How does posting such cynicism help ?
    What if there is even a little truth to what they wrote?
    Why post stuff that discourages people to seek help or seek a little time to think from people who are willing to hear them out when they have no one else to hear them out.
    Why make people feel bad about having a weak moment in their life?

    Cynicism when it crosses this level of insensitivity borders on cruelty.
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:Thank you for the response.
    2. Ok I understand it is beyond or out of bounds.
    3. in a similar situation, an e mail message viewed by some close ones has saved a lady. Hence my suggestion.
    4. I apologise in case I caused hurt or inconvenience to Admin.
    Regards .
    God Bless.
     
  7. nakshatra1

    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Such rude statements might be very hurtful and could provoke a person in a weak moment .OP is a serious poster who is reaching out for help in the forum because she has nowhere else to turn to at this particular moment. Please post sensitively and try to understand what she might be going through- someone is having a weak moment right now and feeling overwhelmed by circumstances. We are not to not make them feel worse or act distrustful /provocative. We are all praying it's a vent that's what we are praying for.
     
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    Anusha2917 IL Hall of Fame

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    Agreed. Suicidal thought are worrying whether it's in an online forum or a friend confiding it in person .
    Can't term this as "wolf wolf" story . As they have pointed above we are praying that she is safe and will come back and respond to the thread.
     
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    Yes. If there is nothing positive to advice for a OP, you should stay away from the post. Not good to victim bash. It will discourage others to post about their problems
     
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    :hello: i agree with you and endorse intoto your jotting. Instead of rubbing salt anf deepen the wound with vitriolic words.......
    2. Well done. You have echoed the sentiments at top of ILITES Mind.
    Regards.
    God bless.
     
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