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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Nov 20, 2019.

  1. BhumiBabe

    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    Thank you so much :oops: I am touched by your message.

    It was not an easy journey and is still filled with many uncertainties. I am also learning to accept uncertainty and enjoy the present. I just hope that other women can see that life is meant to be lived happily, and sometimes that requires leaving your comfort zone.
     
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  2. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Well said. A post worth making into a sticky.

    Welcome back. : )
     
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  3. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    "i would say to avoid in ideal scenario as well"
    CIB my dear, you are wise before your years. :blush:
     
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    Caughtinbetween Gold IL'ite

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    thank you @Rihana :)
     
  5. Mistt

    Mistt IL Hall of Fame

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    I don't know reasons but I just love those lines, Rih. :smile:

    Nice quote on friends and agree with that.
     
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  6. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    This question has been going around in my mind like a song you can't stop humming:

    So, a husband asks wife to prepare a special dish one day or expresses a preference that on weekends the lunches be more elaborate and appealing. Each request is one that brings joy/happiness to the husband and translates to some extra hours of work for the wife.

    What would be examples of similar request from wife to husband?
    Reasonable request from wife to husband that brings her personal joy/happiness and means a few extra hours of work for him each weekend?


    It is a genuine question. I cannot think of any similar requests from wife to husband. I can only think of things like she asks for his help to clean the house, grocery shopping or laundry, or help the kids with homework.
     
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    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

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    1.Wife forcing her husband to take on a luxury vacation just because her friends and relatives are going without considering their financial situation.

    2. Asking him to buy a beautiful diamond jewellery just to show off even though he is barely able to meet the ends.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    ^^^ Good ones : ) And thanks for engaging on such a faaltu khoj (frivolous search). : )

    But, the cooking request from husband is a reasonable one, brings joy/happiness to him, maybe to her too, and means a few extra hours of work in the weekends for the wife.

    The luxury vacation or diamond jewelry request/demand are not reasonable and both of them lose money.

    I was trying to find examples that are similar to husband asking, "make something special on weekends." What would a wife ask the husband to do each weekend? I can only think of household chores or kids stuff, nothing that will bring personal joy/happiness to the wife.
     
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  9. Bubbles

    Bubbles Silver IL'ite

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    maybe asking to dine out, especially if one is the non-earning spouse.. or basically to go out anywhere the wife would like to go and see (insert some show, or new place to explore, or in some cases even the temple!!) where she can't go on her own... :)
    In some cases, even asking or thinking to plan a date night for the couple (I don't know how many Indian couples actually do that)...
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Wake up extra early on Saturday morning to finish your workout so I can sleep in and go later. Also, come back and take care of the kid and make some lunch for me when I come back famished from spending 2+ hours pounding the pavement.
     
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