Relationship Crisis Due To Dhrishti ,nazar ,evil Eye - Poojas / Pariharams / Remedies / Prayers

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  1. Needtobestrong

    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    Hello IL friends,
    I’m giving through a very rough patch in my marriage..
    I’m considering astrological perspective to get remedies.
    Since this is online forum I’m not ready to divulge personal details.
    SOme years back I had an OK relationship ship in my marriage with my husband and in laws...but since August or September 2019, things have been very bad...all of a sudden my husband and in laws used to start shouting at me and verbally abusing and fights happened for no reason even if not my mistake...
    Situation became worst after pandemic started in March 2020 making all of us to be in lockdown without helpers.
    Actually thing is that we have a big family circle, and many relatives...from 2019 to 2020 first quarter , before pandemic , we had many get togethers and functions with relatives.
    There are a few relatives who have some kind of jealousy against me, and my husband too ( not sure but there is hostility )..
    During many functions, few people would again and again tell out of bitterness and not so good intention that me and my husband make such a good pair, and how lucky I am that I got married at young age when their daughters are refusing to get married even after completing studies and getting job and reaching marriageable age...
    During that time I was always sitting with in laws and talking nicely, and few were commenting that we are a very lucky family and such a happy family and in laws and daughter in law are living so happily and harmoniously together...
    I came to know from another source that some mutual relatives of mine and in laws circle have poisoned my in laws mind against me..they told them that I’m a very arrogant girl and I don’t have respect for elders and very proud and have bad attitude etc...
    I’m a little shocked that people have bad intentions towards me to spoil my life and that in laws and husband believed and changed their behaviour.

    My husband and in laws weren’t that bad in beginning of my marriage, even though fights were there they were fairly decent...it was somewhat since above mentioned time period that suddenly they started changing...

    I was talking about relationship problems with a very elderly family member confidentially, they said that external influence can harm a relationship and suggested me to search for spiritual or astrological remedies , like pujas prayers shlokas, or any other vaastu remedies to block out bad influence so that DH and in laws will realize their mistake and not be affected by external bad influence...

    Please suggest remedies like above.
    poojas Prayers Shlokas vaastu remedies temple donations etc..what can I do...
     
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    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    You can send personal messages to Astrologers here. They will reply personally and help you
     
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    IL Prihaspathy could help find remedial measures.
     
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    In an older thread there are a few recipes for what to do to remove nazar/dhrishti. You can quickly skim through that -- longer posts have the recipes of what/how to do it.

    Added later: The use of salt, and dry red chillies in the procedure to remove nazar/dhrishti seems to be quite common. Adding mustard seeds to the mix is also done by some recipes. See link below for how-to perform the nazar removal. One would also need some hot, glowing charcoals in a hibachi sort of stove. The mustard/salt/redchilli mixture is put into the coals to splatter and burn. This is best done on a balcony, or outdoors.

    The site Method of casting off the evil eye using salt and red chillies together - Sanatan Sanstha gives details: Always ODD number of red chillies are used; and the amount of salt exceeds the amount of red chillies (by weight)

    Nature of distress: Number of red chillies
    1. Heaviness of the body, numbness of hands and feet, vomiting sensation: 3
    2. Rise in restlessness, sudden sweating, negative thoughts: 5
    3. Not having control over speech, blurring of vision, saliva dripping from the mouth, using abusive language, thoughts of committing suicide: 7
    4. Fainting, manifestation of negative energy, thoughts about killing someone: 9
    Note: If the above mentioned symptoms are not observed, then as per convenience, use chillies in odd numbers commencing from three.
     
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    I had baby chilly plants and mustard greens all over a potted plant I had in an apartment balcony, all doing drishti for my baby DD! There was no way to do the hot coals thing. How time flies!
     
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    Haha... that is a new one. Just potted plants in the balcony, and NO SALT or splattering on coals. This splattering of seeds of some sort seems to be the common thread in all the nazar removal schemes.

    The "Chashm-e-Baddoor" slogan that came from Persia, via the Moghuls also accompanies the current day practice of splattering of Esfand seeds to rid someone/a-household of the nazar.
    The concept of “evil eye” is about being the victim of a curse on someone else’s behalf. Iranians at times tend to be secretive about their achievements or upcoming endeavors simply because they are afraid that someone will bestow them with the evil eye. In fact sometimes you will see people refrain from sharing particular aspects of their lives out of fear of “cheshm khordan,” literally translated being struck by the eye.

    In Iran Esfand is used to fight against the evil eye. This is a tradition that has been passed down through generations from the days of Zoroastrianism. The idea is to burn Esfand seeds during which time the seeds make a popping sound, then the smoke that comes from the burning seeds must be circled around one’s head and home. The smoke and the popping sound are said to take away the evil.
    Esfand is called Aliv or Halim or Haleem in India; it is available in some grocery stores. It is a tiny brown seed. Not in the usual recipes of indian cuisine. However, it is used for special purposes, such as




     
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    My spouse’s Periamma supposed to have nazar eye. Her dad opined that she to be called Friday evevnings to perform this act of eliminating nazar of hers as well as others on his family members.

    On special occasions like Deepavali all members of family including extended ones would assemble in that hall and Periamma would hold a vermillion slashed large size pumpkin over which tightly packed camphor would be lit. Then this would be held high in front of the gathering and taken three circles clockwise anti clockwise in vertical plane and then this would be thrown to smithreens on the north of the street.

    A distant relative senior lady visit used to be fraught with some kind of danger or loss or both. Boiling milk would overflow if she happened to sight this in vicinity. Or ghee bottle would fall off contents running into rivulets. Or rice would get over cooked or and curd would not set well and so on & so forth.

    My dad had a nick with his seven O’ clock blade while shaving; he said, it happened because this lady was in proximity. Even hair falling off from rich black tresses of mom and my sister considered because of her nazar.

    One fine festive Friday evening she visited us, when dad was going to unpack alphanso wooden basket just collected from railway parcel office. Dad had apprehensions. She was in next room could inhale the air mixed with mango flavour. She enquired about it. We & our other visitors all feared the worst to follow - that that mangoes all could get rot. Dad removed few good mangoes and handed over to her (presumably to Ward off her Nazar).

    My mom said to the old lady to perform for all - the nazar removal act. Mom brought red chillies on a plate handed it to the lady.

    She uttered some standard phrases in Tamil holding the red chillies partly in right and some in the other hand. With that in hand, in vertical plane she drew huge ellipses in opposite directions.

    Then she left.
    From the far end kitchen, I heard the crackling of Red chillies over the blazing charcoal when I found Alphansos intact and would take one or two more days to mature ripe. No achoos! I was in my teens!
     
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    :roflmao:
    antithesis to the Helen of Troy... a lady who can sink a thousand ships, but also make them reach safe-harbour with just a couple of handfuls of dried red chillies.
     
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    Thanks for your replies ...
    Actually I was upset when i came to know that certain people with irritation and jealousy towards me could poison the mind of my In laws and H and turn them against me...
    I m unable to consult astrologer in person as I can’t step out, too many Covid cases in my city.
    Video consult with family astrologer not possible as of now as I have few confidential questions..I don’t have privacy with everyone being indoors..they may snoop on me and listen.
    That is why I posted in this forum to check possibility of getting some ideas of remedies from people who have experienced similar situation .., or perhaps knows someone who went thru similar situation...
    For example, in one of my previous neighbours home they did Satyanarayana Pooja at home due to some family problems.
    In current situation I cannot organise poojas at home. Too risky.
     
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    Pardon me for asking .... but I am thinking about a guy around 40 years old, with a wife in her mid 30's, couple of children, a pair of [his]parents. Half a dozen people in a 2 or 3 LDK mansion flat. The lady of the house works hard to keep everyone fed, is hardy and doesn't get sick too often, does most of the household chores, and so forth.

    Why would a guy not like the scheme: he brings in the money, and she buys rice/urad online, and makes him dosa ? What is there to listen to others about this wife, maid, cook and bottle-washer? After all, the guy holds a steady job with an employer who might think the guy is clever enough do stuff, and merit a salary. Why is he not clever enough at home: Does he leave brains at work ? I just don't understand this at all. Please feel free to ignore.
     
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