ASG and PMHasena, You guys are lucky to have such husbands. You know what my DH says for the double behaviour i.e in my inalws presence and absence that I am atleast lucky that you ahve a husband who is good in their absence my sisters have got husbands whoa re second MIL to my sisters. I don't say he is acompleet jerk at their presence but he is a silent spectator he can't help it. He will never take the action what ASG your DH took or He will never taunt his mother indirectly like PMHAsena your DH did. The day my MIL scolds me I cry he is calm next day when my MIL feels better she is back to normal and I have to be normal. There is nothing much I can do. NO fight back nor my DH fights back it's just listena nd ignore and move on with our lives I know it sounds bad but this is my life.