First I wouldlike to say that your reply will help meto respond to my situation more efficiently. The reason behind this is the problem im dealing withmy mom. Can I give introduction to that now? My mom is over-selfless that sheis spending the past 15 years to take care of others. It started with her FILspent 2-3 years, then her father,next my father (suffered from cancer for 5years),then her MIL (lived upto 93 years). After my father's side mother passedaway she decided to stay with her mother(who is now 83,and with limited mobility ) in a village'who was takingcare of the farm, cow etc. Initially I was happy for her decision as she shewill have freedom and also less distraction from her past. It has been 5 yearsnow. Both the mother daughter became over possessive and over protective for each other. My patti has 4children my amma being the eldest, next one sister and 2 brothers.The familyset up for all my GM’s children are good and living closeby(say max of 4-5 hrstravel)My uncles are very busy in their household or atleast happy that my momis watching her carefully every second and visit my pattis place once in 3 months fora day and half. This makes my the old traditioned patti insecure much due to pressureof society. My chithi’s husband is veryactive.He does many helps for them but his words irritate them a lot(pointingthat he does more than his sons).So my mom is not depending too much on him either and doeseverything including farming arrangements, patti’s health etc -- without takingcare of her health.In the middle,so much of visitors and my patti instructs mymom to treat them with hospitality. In the night my patti will massage her legwith so many oils for her knee pain. My mom will always say ” ïm fine”.Neithershe takes any break nor her mom allows becos both of them want to clingtogether. The only time she goes out is for any death and then she has to return before night and duringthose time also numerous phone calls between them. Honestly, she is her first and only priority. To be frank, none of thesiblings and their spouses like bothnowadays. Whenever I raise this topic her answer would be “how long will she bealive”?”But after that what will be the mental state of my mother. Definitely mymom will stay with me as im the onlydaughter. But her mentality has changed completely by now. Once a positive,courageous mom has become negative now. I called her to stay with me for amonth atleast. My patti cried, even became sick and eventually both of themrefused. My confusion is Is it possiblefor me to make them understand that the other siblings also has responsibilityand need bonding even at this time? I feel little distance is needed betweenthem. What is your say on this.