I have been a silent reader for so long, and after getting married and facing reality I got a new ID and started being more active.. anyways I need advice from you guys.. So I got recently married just a few months, and the first couple of months have been anything but blissful, I got married to a guy who a relative showed to me, so not like I was forced into it or anything, but there were lies said to us and we were naive enough to believe them, anyways I'm just wondering from all married women.. what is the reason keeping you in your relationship See, I got married and I have nothing positive from any end: -Husband is a mama's boy, anything she says he listens to, they sit next to each other on the couch.. just typical stuff that I'm sure many of you experienced - Family is thousands of dollars in debt, initially we thought they were well to do because of the way they talk, but they have fallen so deep and still are falling that it will take at least several years to recover -They dont have their own house or own car, yes I shouldve realized this from the beginning, but I thought since everyone is so hardworking and once my income is set, with 4 people working full time we will be able to reach these goals, but after I got here i got to know that both my inlaws cut their hours and my husband makes much less than I thought. Their 3 incomes combined meets their monthly costs there is no additional money for savings or anything, so even with my income there will be no savings just paying off the stupid debt they are in or all these other essentials we need to get - When I first met my husband I knew he was so hardworking, and I thought that since hes so determined and not lazy and no worthless spending his earnings we together will get somewhere in life, now I live with him and he just had no ambition or no direction in life! Will never discuss future plans, doesnt even stress out about our financial situation, doesnt even have the desire to enjoy with his wife (going out to dinner, movies, weekend trip) And before I started working I expected that my husband would take care of me, give me some money for my personal needs.. but nope! I literally would have to ask him for money/credit card and yet i still wouldnt get it. I dont want to be pampered or get royal treatment, but even when im sick or not feeling well he doesnt show any care, concern.. just goes on with his life. All this I saw after marriage and its just such a terrible reality. -In laws and I do not communicate, MIL has fought with me, yelled at me, told me what to wear what to do, our relationship has gotten so bad that we dont communicate until absolutely necessary. There are so many other things ( food differences, tv differences, lifestyle differences) But those are all very minor compared to others. I just dont know why I should be in this relationship or what is keeping me going. It seems like a loveless relationship where husband doesnt care, inlaws and I dont communicate, financially I have to suffer because of them (if they were willing to work hard and make things better this wouldnt be a big issue to me, but they are just the kind of people who go day to day and just take things so lightly) I'm just so so so confused with my life, never would I have thought my married life would be like this, or thought that I would make a mistake like this. Sorry for the length of this post! So tell me ladies.. what is it that keeps you in your marriage, or what according to you is the most important element of a marriage?