Real Life Stories Of Handling Mils

When a woman marries, she doesn’t just form a relationship with her husband but also builds new connections with his entire family. These bonds can range from beautiful, with open arms and acceptance, to challenging and complex. However, no matter the situation, her husband's family becomes a significant part of her life, right? So, the question arises: how can she maintain these relationships while being respectful and also achieving her goals- - be it their love, respect, or a special place in their hearts?

Here, five women share their real-life experiences of facing challenges with their in-laws. They reveal how they refused to give up, tackled the issues with smart strategies, and eventually transformed these relationships into beautiful bonds over time.
5 women share how they dealt with their difficult in-laws
Priya and her sister-in-law
Priya from Bengaluru was often judged by her sister-in-law, Neha, for focusing on her job.

How she dealt with it: Priya politely explained to Neha how she balanced work and family, and not just solely focused on her job. Priya explained to her how she understands the importance of a good work-life balance. Neha started to understand her better and became supportive when she saw her working hard in both her personal and professional life. Priya also made an effort to involve Neha in family activities, which helped their relationship improve. Eventually, they grew closer and started respecting each other’s choices more.

Aditi and her mother-in-law

Aditi from Delhi had a controlling mother-in-law who always criticized her.
How she dealt with it: Aditi spoke to her husband, Arjun, who slowly and politely helped set boundaries with his mom. Aditi also learned to stay calm and choose which issues to address. Over time, things got better, and her mother-in-law started respecting her more. Aditi also found ways to build a better relationship by spending time together, which helped ease the tension. She understood that consistent efforts would make her relationship better, and it did.
Sanya and her father-in-law
Sanya from Mumbai felt immense hurt because her father-in-law, Mr. Rao, compared her to his previous daughter-in-law.
How she dealt with it: Sanya calmly spoke to Mr. Rao and explained how his words made her feel. While not immediately, he slowly understood and became more respectful. Over time, their relationship became less tense, and Mr. Rao stopped comparing her to others. Sanya also worked on building a more comfortable atmosphere by staying patient and understanding. She understood and gave her father-in-law proper time and space while also working towards making their relationship better.
Neha and her mother-in-law
Neha from Kolkata was often criticized by her traditional and somewhat orthodox mother-in-law for not doing all the household work.

How she dealt with it: Neha spoke to her husband, Raghav, and they divided the work fairly. She also gently set boundaries with her mother-in-law. Over time, her mother-in-law understood and respected her decisions more. Neha made sure to express gratitude for her mother-in-law’s help, which softened the relationship.
Simran and her in-laws
Simran from Chandigarh felt immensely overwhelmed by her in-laws who kept interfering in her life personal life.

How she dealt with it: Simran spoke openly to her in-laws and told them she needed space. With her husband’s help, they set clear boundaries. Simran was firm but polite, and her in-laws started respecting her more. She also made time for family activities to maintain good relationships despite the boundaries.

Source-TOI

 

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You hit the nail on the head.If parents spend half the time they spend on girls on marital life on boys,50%of the problems will be solved.The general culture is that the girls need to adjust and hence the time spent on their training.