Question For Ladies In Happy Marriage

I felt very comfortable and at ease when I met my husband.I never had to pretend to be someone else and he never expected much.Also he is a very practical person not romantic like how one sees in movies which was quite boring initially but I knew the value of being oneself and practical only few years later.

 

When DH came for "bride-seeing", we just kept on talking randomly for an hour (not about life goals)...
he still says - did we talk for 1 hour, it felt like 5 minutes...
When he left, my cousin asked me - what do you think?
I said I have no clue what to evaluate or how to evaluate and what to feel - but I "feel" that I have no control over what will happen in my life but the ONLY THING I DO KNOW is that this wedding is going to happen 100 %

When there were some horoscope issues and my parents were rethinking on some other matters, it kept hitting me that this wedding was going to happen - come what may!
My feeling was not that this guy was the right one (like your other incidents), the feeling was that this is my destiny and it is inevitable...

Even today (after almost 20 years), I feel that with other guys that I met, some rejected me and I rejected some on just instincts sometimes and I had no clue whatsoever what is good/bad in my DH at that time - I was just pushed into it by some forces beyond my knowledge and I knew that I couldn't do anything about it!

Today, if you ask me - are you in a happy marriage - I would say "Yes, undoubtedly, deliriously happy"
But there were several (although temporary) troubled moments through the past 19 years (we have an 18 year old son), we stuck through, worked on them together, we were honest, committed and respectful with each other and although we did not completely understand each other, we persisted and trusted each other.
Romance is still a part of our everyday lives - more so than the initial years of parenting

But is he my Mr. Right? Well, neither am I his Mrs Right!
Hahaha we both are still work-in-progress !!

Keep smiling !
HR

 

you know what sui, i been waiting to reply to this thread from saturday but couldnt find the time so now here i am ...

as in the movies they show when you see the right person wind blows,rain come, you touch person you feel shock hahaha all those movie things, but when in real life we meet a person its so different..

when my parents started looking for a guy for me.. my husband is the 1st one we saw...that time i visited india after more than 15 yrs, i talk to him for a while eventhou its my first time talking to a guy other than my bros,cousins hahaha..

even my late grandparents saw him very well...after week my grandpa got sick and he left us.. so that time no one was in mood for the wedding so we came back and next yr we went back again and somehow in my heart i was feeling if its GOD's will he will be single even now.GOD starts something in our heart only to get that done.. so to all our suprise he was still single and they came to see us again and all the things fell in place and we are married.happy happy..

it will be 15 yrs to this october...i am so greatful and very very Thankful to GOD for such a person in my life...

 

This conclusion is “”icing on the cake” .
Since OP begun the thread “only for ladies in happy marriage” , I reserve my comments about how i felt in that “ girl-looking” episode.

 

Our marriage happened just like in movies . We had no interest on marriage. Both of us got married just because of our parents compulsion. After marriage our relationship was like Tom and jerry . It took sometime to understand ourselves. But later we realized that the reason we got married is to enjoy annoying each other .