so many threads about R2I... I want to be neutral and start a thread.First of all,I live in the USA.. I am here for more than a decade and sometimes I too have the need for sense of belonging.US is a great place and so is our motherland. However,people return or stayback due to their priorities.overall,the liveliness, unpredicatable life,being a part of our people and our culture is what I miss the most!Are these valid reasons?Do not know.From my observation here is what I have listed.. pros about returning back to India.. 1) good Indian food 2) sense of belonging (that too IF you live in places you feel you can gel in) 3) less loneliness 4) opportunity to choose friends of your liking 5) proximity to family (that too if they are living in the same state or nearby state) 6) liveliness 7) functions/festivals 8) Colorful Indian attire 9) you really LIKE to dress up here since people do notice you and yes..we are humans we like the appreciative glances (in a good way ofcourse) 10) there are lots of lovely places to see..name any kind of vacationbe it hill stations,beaches etc..you get it there 11) Spiritual wealth negatives about returning to India.. 1) JOB.for many this seems to be a problem.For less ambitious people like me(I personally do seasonal jobs) and well over the age of 32.Last time on my vacation to India,I saw that people prefer freshers and "age limit" always specified. Here,I do GET a job.There,to drive admist the traffic and take up a job for time pass...makes no sense.Again,this point is for someone like me.Some are having years of experience..they can get one or some prefer to stay at home which is also good. 2) PRESSURE TO LOOK GOOD.I just wear whatever I want to go out anywhere.noone scrutinizes me,noone cares and so you are not pressured to look good. there you are welldressed and good,the way people treat you could be different.If you do not look sophisticated,the way the sales people treat you is different. 3) COLOR,COMPLEXION..not once in US was I spoken to about my skin color.atleast to my face,except one or two desi ladies (that too they were proud of how fair they were) In India,first day I step into my community the ladies around me are like "Gosh! you look so dark.what happenned?people usually look fair coming from America. you look dull"I am not kidding.this has happenned many many times. 4) COMPETITION..everything is a competition.everything be it beauty,job,status..everything is a competition. 5) FAMILY..Overrated..atleast for me.either there is family politics or we rarely meet.it makes no difference be it India or America 6) FRIENDS..people do not have time.people are so busy and especially for women..after marriage friendships seems to fade off. 7) TRAFFIC..people do not mind this on a vacation but every day..day to day..I think we can get used to this. Maybe the above is wrong.feel free to explain and tell us the real facts. people in India who have been there or people who have returned only knows what is best, day to day life etc.NRI's only go for a vacation.so everything is rosy.Please be honest and post your opinions as we get a better picture.