Problems With Older One

My 6 yr old started remote school and she is not serious about it. Every morning i have high blood pressure screaming at her and some times it is too much. H has 0 contribution and he may add to my blookd pressure some times. He hides behind his desk under name of meetings whole day and then morning/even he needs workouts.
But my daughter is getting all bad habits and OCD from him.
So Her room is full of toys and all her stuff. Nothing she shares but also grabs her brothers stuff and hides it in her room. Her room is like storage now. No place to walk in or find anything and looks so dark because of oveloaded. Any stuff which was here or there in living room or basement to play, that also she keeps collecting and brings itto her room. So morning rush i take out clothes to wear or night before, or after folding, to put back in closet, next minute, they are outside thrown or dumped in closet floor. Also toys or kids furniture all round her room, so can not even open closet to put something in easily or take out. Her suitcase she took out.
She got that from her father and will keep screaming if i put anything in her room.
Then she is not at all serious about class. She will mute the teacher, and volume down, she will again share arranging her room.
Does not comb her hair, in PJs no brekafast, attends her class. She wakes up 15 mins before and for 10 mins she will cry or fight over stuff moved in her room while i have to grab her breakfast or milk but meanwhile she will keep fighting or crying.
1 min to class, she is forced into bathroom and while i start class she is brushing. Her breakfast is finished by 12( i keep asking to eat, then finally feed) and by 3, I feed ( I put in her mouth) her lunch.
In her independent work, she watches youtube and again when teacher let them to do independent work, again she will start watching TV. At night I again force sit her and make her do work she is supposed to do in independent practice.
She does not want me to sit next to her in room ( where she studies) or to help her.

I have younger one too and sometimes i have meetings also but i still give priority to family and kids and miss or wok accoridingly.

I do not know if everyone has same story but my other friends look managed. Kids shower before class so they ae awake. Both H and W are in same alignment. Have their breakfast and they all finish their work. Those parents cry for other reasons that kids do not know this that. My problem, my kid does not even do this that.

I can not talk to H. He is in his own league so please do not suggest to talk to him.