Ha... You reminded me of my SIL a few years back when she was newly married and then pregnant. I've learnt to accept the differences and uniqueness of each people. I am/was like you. A career woman, with little to no help at home. So, I do the household chores, kid's works (literally cooking different dishes to them, bathing, feeding, packing, teaching, playing and putting them to sleep), and some outside works like driving, paying the bills, etc..etc.. in addition to supervise our family business. I get help from my H and mom when and where it is needed. But mostly I manage everything singlehandedly and it works well with me. I am active, and I have never rested unless I was extremely sick. I traveled, worked and stayed normal during both of my pregnancies and post pregnancies even though they were c-sections. I enjoy being active, and I can't stay lazy. Whereas my SIL is lazy. She is lazy according to my own standards. But she is normal, and I have seen plenty of women just like her. So, I can't call her lazy, although I am different and I don't like such laid back nature personally. When she was pregnant, she literately stopped doing anything. Took complete rest like sleeping or watching TV. She need a full time maid, plus a family member to supervise the maid and her all the time. Whenever they visited us, it was me (a working woman) who cooked, and even washed their plates, since she could not even lift the spoon. She acted as if she is too tired. In fact, she believed she is too tired and she suppose to take rest. Perhaps, she is indeed very tired and needed rest. I don't know. I can't criticize her or complain. That's what I've learnt my lessons with her. Since she is tired, her husband (my bro) started to over protecting her. He literally behaved like a slave to her, in order to bring their baby safely to this world. He would even spoon feed his wife. The medical history of her doesn't speak anything as such, but she is tired. What to do??? She is otherwise cool. She is a mom of 2 girls now. A house wife. Even then, she needs full time maids, and a family member to stay with. Else, she can't raise the kids. She needs her H to take complete care of their elder one, as she is busy with the younger one. So, despite of going for work, and doing PP after the work, my bro does a lot of things at home for the kids, like feeding them, putting them to sleep, making bottle milk at mid nights, and diapers when and where it is needed. Because she can't. Instead of developing hatred, I've learned to accept her as who she is. That's what my bro too did. I honestly tried a couple of times to be like her to see whether my H helps or not as my bro. But before my H could notice the difference, I felt bored and became active all over again. Because it is me. Now that, whenever my bro and SIL visit us, we order food from outside in use and throw packs. It helps all of us, and save our times. No comments, no complaints.