Marigold, I also think you should take your grandma to the doctor to see if she is having dementia. If she was not always like this, it could be something mentally wrong. Also, in situations when we can no longer care for elders because their needs surpass the help we are able to provide, then I don't see anything wrong in an old age home. Doctors, nurses, and professional caretakers are better at handling these types of problems. Being born a son or daughter does not automatically make us super fit to take care of our elderly parents. You know, I read an article the other day about a young girl where I live. She has very severe mental problems and her parents can't keep themselves or the girl safe from her own behavior, so they had no choice but to send her to a mental institution. That might sound sad, but when our family members behavior is beyond what we can handle alone, it's time to involve other people in their care. There's no shame in that. I feel bad for your parents having to go through so much stress. Although I'm sure your mom loves her mother, it's also time for her to think about her own health. JMO.