Pregnant & So Unhappy :-( Advice Needed Pls!

Thanks everyone so much for your advice. I have been so occupied the past week and was not able to respond.

Anyway.. just an update..I don't know what hubby discussed with my inlaws and what they have decided on...but I am certain if they still insisted to come he would have told me I think. If they are still insisting on coming I am trying not to worry about it as I already have a solution in place.

Also, I have just been called for an interview in my parents city and hubby said he can travel one week here one week there if I want to go for that opportunity. I am just a little worried that if he calls his parents now and i am living with my parents then he wont even visit (but I don't think he will do this -- but you never know) - Also, I am not sure how living apart will turn out especially when I am pregnant as I have never stayed even a day away from hubby. I told hubby this and he said he will surely commute between the cities every week (as many of his friends are in similar situation he is used to this concept, but I am not!).

Lastly, the company that has called me for an interview is very close to my parents place and very convenient... I have applied here several times but this is the first time I have gotten an interview call. But I am also worried how it will look if I get the job and join and then in few months I have to tell them I am pregnant....it might ruin my reputation with the company for the future? Although I am extremely early in my pregnancy (6th week). What do you guys think?

 

Hi Ladies,
Just wanted to update you. So I didn't talk to hubby regarding this topic since our last fight last week, nor did I speak to my MIL since my conversation with her where she said FIL and her son will decide when they r coming...I assumed hubby had spoken to her and this topic was sorted but apparently not.

Anyways...so hubby slept early today as tired and then around 10.30pm i saw MIL had called me 8 times (I mean if I don't pick up once at night, doesn't she get I might be busy!). Anyway...so I called back even tho it was like midnight when I saw her missed call as I didn't want her complaining to hubby the next day that I don't call her back and she was asking question after question etc and telling me to listen to this and that for baby and THEN she is like ...yeah do this for 3-4months and BY THEN WE WILL COME AND I WILL TEACH YOU. I was shocked and so pissed off that she had given me more tension now for no reason and wished I never called her back!

In a spur of the moment I went to wake hubby and tell him she called me and if he had spoken to her and he said he hadn't had a chance to speak to her yet and why I was asking. I told him why and then again he started fighting that if he wants to come just let her come etc ... I said fine but why don't you talk to her once and he said he hadn't had the time (he is just scared to talk to her about it and is avoiding the topic as always!). And then he was like you are panicing so much (which i am!) and waking me in the middle of the night and irritating me etc...and once again started fighting. So I told him about when his parents were here after our wedding...and when I didn't make tea for them for 2 days his mom was complaining about it to me in front of her dad...and that I would not b able to satisfy any of her expectations when she comes now as I will not be that well. He just does not understand..I was not complaining or telling on her...but he took that even worse and started fighting. I explained how I will not be able to cook for them or do things for them and they will expect it whether I am pregnant or not...but he doesn't understand at all! Instead he says stupid things like you don't cook now either etc even tho I cook basically every day! Idiot! I KNOW I was wrong to wake him at midnight..but come on! why does she always give stress. Next time I will not even call her back if she keeps doing this!

Garr.. so I replied to that interview in my hometown to set up a date for an interview after my parents are back from vacation... now I think I have to go for this job even if I want to or not as this is the only escape from this situation. The thing is I don't want to fly too much either while pregnant...especially so early in my pregnancy

 

Hey sorry I didn't mean she said she will teach me a lesson. She was telling me things i need to do now...like puja etc ...and then said do this for 3-4 months and then I will come and teach you (other things).

Either way...I hardly lived in india for a few years before moving abroad and am not very indian at all..hubby initially told me when his mom said do this and that just say yes and do what u feel..but if she comes she will force me to do what she wants.

I am super stressed. My parents are also away on vacation so I have no one to talk to this about I think she will force my hubby to call them and he will do it...and I will go to my parents place but it might be really hard living away from hubby as I am used to doing every thing with him