Pregnancy News! Mom Has No Idea..

@blindpup10 @SGBV , ladies what I meant to say is not that this kind of behavior doesn't ever happen , there are plenty of cases like this but when someone exhibits this kind of an attitude towards their child, that goes against all laws of nature , and they have some really serious mental issues. Conventional ways of dealing with other people will not work with them, and probably these issues can never fully be fixed without intensive therapy.

 

It is not really psychological disorder. Let's not give them the benefit of the doubt all the time, like they may be acting this way because of some or the other factors. Not always.
They can be plain evils. They can be naturally controlling freaks. They can be naturally cunning...
These are human qualities.
A bad person can not change to an innocent angel immediately after having a child. So, this law of nature or whatever that say mother's are equal to God, and they can never do anything wrong to their children are all overrated myths only.
Let's not encourage these myths.
Because only in our part of the world, we children suffer a lot in the hands of our own parents (in the form of in laws mostly). It is because we are taught to believe our parents are Gods, and whatever they do and say should be right. More so, we have no guts to question our parents or even to accept that they could be wrong. Because sub consciously we believe our Godly parents can never be wrong.
That's why we struggle in troubles and waste almost all the golden years of our personal lives without even realizing what we are losing.

 

Dear OP,

I feel you should inform your mother, if you don't it may add fuel to the fire, and may damage your relation further. It will add up as another hurting issue for your mother as she is already upset with you about your marriage. Informing your father and not informing her will definitely hurt her. You said you still love your mother, then respect your love towards your mother and inform her and do not expect anything from her. Do your duty as a daughter, atleast your will not have any regrets in future. She has a right to know about her daughter's pregnancy, it's up to her how she takes it. Till now you haven't done any mistake from your side, it is very clear that your mother is not maintaining the cordial relation with you, but now don't do the mistake of giving her / relatives a chance to point finger at you.

If you don't inform - it may further deteriorate your relation with your mother.
If you inform -
1. There is a positive chance your mother's behavior may change and may develop a soft corner for you especially in your current situation.
2. If not, there won't be any change, relation continues as is without any positive change. But atleast you will not have any regrets/guilt in future.

When you inform her, just think that you are doing your duty as a daughter and don't expect any positiveness, also be prepared and ignore if she hurts you.

In any case I don't see any harm in informing your mother.

 

OP,

What are you expecting from your mom once she heard the news?
Patch up with you? Come and stay with you?