Praise Don't Curse For Your Own Good

Negative thoughts the culprit to many diseases:

We inherit this quality of collecting the negative contributions of our parents, or may be we are made like that, when u think back in your memories, we seem to lack the better contributions of our grand parents, parents, siblings, friends and so on. There are many nostalgic memory in all of us, but come up in your mind only as nostalgic other wise you don’t remember them at all, which in fact should be cherished and shared more.

A small request, why don’t you attend the function of the child’s poonal, suddenly varsha can say no ma, that aunt was so cruel to me during meena’s wedding. She was pointing that I am too dark for words and how I would get a groom, leave alone settle in life.

Hey today is patti’s birthday come on lets go and join all, to varsha, and varsha says, no I don’t want to as it is I don’t keep well eating outside, that patti was so cruel in my young days always reprimanding for no cause of mine. Making me the scapegoat for all her anger over others. The same patti has done nice payasams and sweets for varsha, or has got her nice silk pavadai for the first reaching of puberty. All this is forgotten by her.

Small little incidents if we could forget and forgive a lot of good things can happen, we don’t know actually why these things are done in the first place, come to think of it, if elders could think again and then decide a lot of factors like the above could be avoided, now come to think of it the same patti or the aunt will have more negative thoughts like this stored in their mind.

If we all could be trained to think better, from the young, now you might say it is an enormous feat, still even now as young mothers u can give it a shot, not to speak the negatives, or add more positives while mentioning negatives, you not only avoid many diseases in the process, it is just like any other learning, we invariably end up saying something too trivial like, while feeding a baby, hey she is too wicked and might hit you, come on, finish up your dinner or some such things, leaving an impact of the negative quality in a child.

One can easily gauge the reaction of children, when u visit some one, from the way the kids behave with you, if they were to be cautious, take it, with the thoughts of what the parents could had told about us for them to be so, but if they are very welcoming then you have made a very nice impression there. So these little observations, will show what we are doing to the generations to come. It is not the food, or lifestyle alone. We need to watch our small little nuances of expressions to get the children to think more positively, when we follow! I think we need not have the time to preach in the first place..

Now coming to the negative thoughts and how they affect you, when you are alone, these collective thoughts can set a nice migraine, stomach ulcers, womb discharges, heart ache. The negatives thoughts churned give rise to the blood pressure, as you are helpless, and unable to settle things or move ahead, even meditation is interrupted because of your thoughts taking over. the baby in the womb also feels your discomfort and anger and comes out a very sensitive child who cannot bear any reprimanding We have these problems even with our spouse, where one need to intervene and tell them if they could talk about some one, any one for that matter about the better contributions and quality of a person. They may be at a loss initially but slowly you will be able to bring about a change.

No amount of reading books or any advise reach your brain until u start praising instead of cursing….

Regards sunkan

 

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