Potty Training a toddler

Hi Vidukarth,

My daughter was exactly in the same situation when I was doing potty training. She didn't poo for 2 days, she used to made n number of trips to the bathroom but no results. I was adamant for 2 days...and I made sure she getting enough of the fiber that way she cann't control. What I observed from her was , she was not aware of pushing it, so I showed how she really had to do. But took her 2 weeks to get comfortable. Initially she started pushing she threw up too. So make sure she had enough of fan air, so that she won't get nauseated when she tried to push hard. Another thing is make sure she gets the right size step stool which helps her rest her foot comfortably for support when pushing.

Let me know if you have any questions

Thanks
Shanti

 

Sure, thanks, I never thought about the step stool, i thought she was comfortable with that as she pees by herself without our presence to help.
i will check that and i have told her earlier as to how to push, but not sure if she really tries to do that, but will try.. and hoping for some luck with this..
thank you once again for responding

 

hi

this is how i trained my 3 year old to the potty now she goes to both in the commode it self

the first thing she gets up from bed nappy is off and she was taken to potty after that for every 45 min -1 hr i used to keep an alarm and keep her on the potty whether she goes or not is a different thing but she got the idea that she has to go to potty,for the first 10 - 15 days its very irritating becuase they wont tell and it gets meesy a lot for that i kept 2 used up towels to clean the mess and at the end of the day washed and dried so that they can be used for the next day, when ecer she takes water after 20 min she needs to be taken to the potty. in 3 weeks she got the hang of it she is able to control her bladder andnow ableto do on her own. even for the pooh noted the time when she is doing and made her sit on the potty with a book or some toy, first few days were totally messy but then she did it as she had to do beacuse she clearly got the idea that she would no more be on nappy

so those who all are trying just dont get discouraged if they dont do it but they will for sure get there

good luck in potty training

 

lifeisajourney,
thank you very much for your feedback

 

Potty training specially for poop is difficult and kids can get constipated in the fear of pushing!!!!Try giving her Miralax..Mix one spoon of it in 1/4 cup of water. Miralax is tasteless and is safe...It keeps the poop soft...

DS is 2 yrs and 3 months old. When I started potty training 3 months ago, he got potty trained for Pee pretty quickly (took him about 5 weeks!!) But for poop he used to ask diaper all the time...But we kept taking him to the big potty..He didn't have a BM for 2-3 days too...That's when our pediatrician suggested Miralax. It helps to keep the poop soft and add bulk which will make them go...Also try some prune juice...

Alternatively, get some potty training videos from the library...Get some potty training books...Show them to her...Take her to the bathroom when you go to potty...Tell her that she is a big girl now and she has to go poop in the potty just like you and your DH...

We also did a potty dance with our DS...We invented some crazy steps and showed him that mommy and daddy will do the happy potty dance if he goes in the big potty...We also sit with him and read some books...Those books are exclusively read only when he sits on the potty to go poop!!!

Hope this helps!!

 

mridusudha,
sure, will try that.. i once tried miralax, very little, but that came out like watery stools and she was in daycare that time, she had bad constipation, had to give and it came out of her diapers, she knows and realises that, but some fear is stopping her from doing that.. hope it will get over soon..
thanks for all your kind ideas and suggestions.

 

Step by step for potty training.

Step 1—When she's ready for her own potty, take her with you to pick one out. She'll need a potty that sits on the floor—one that's hers, that she can pull around the house (preferably when it's empty!), one to try her favorite doll or stuffed animal on when she begins to understand your wish. Talk about it: "That one's yours. This is mine and daddy's (or mommy's). But you have your own and someday you'll use it like we do." Don't use deflectors (plastic shields that are meant to direct a boy's urine stream into the potty) for little boys' potties. Sooner or later, he is likely to sit down on it and hurt himself. Then, he won't sit on the potty again.

(A boy who learns to pee in his potty will take so much pleasure in the noise it makes that he'll learn quickly how to hold his penis down so he can spray the sides of the pot. Or, he will want to stand and to spray the room. Don't start him standing up. If you do, he'll never learn to sit down! He'll have far too much fun trying out his aim, inside the potty and out.)

Step 2—If the child shows any interest in her new potty, let her sit on it in her diapers, or fully clothed, while you sit on "yours." A cold potty seat is too big a step. Only sit her there as long as she's interested. Read her a story, or make one up, or sing to her. When she wants to run off, let her. You are simply introducing the routine—once a day. It's too soon to have her sit down on the potty undressed. Don't try to "catch" her yet when she's ready to urinate or move her bowels.

Step 3—Once she's gotten used to the routine of sitting while you sit, and of communicating together as you both sit, take her to the bathroom to undo her diaper and empty it into the potty. She may resist. One of my child patients said to her mother: "That's my potty. Don't you get it dirty!" If your child does not want to empty her diaper into the potty, pull back. But if she's willing, take her once or twice a day after she's wet or dirty to dump the diaper contents into her potty to help make the connection. She may even let you know when it's time for your bathroom trips. She may say, "Go to potty" when she's wet or dirty. You might want to start hand washing afterward as a routine. Get her a stool to stand on. Let her wash her hands "like you do." Watch her face to see whether she's getting interested and involved in these routines.

Step 4—is a big step. Offer to take off her diaper and to let her run around bare-bottomed. Put the potty in her room (or out in the yard with her if you have access to one; if there are neighbors nearby, some parents may be more comfortable covering the child with pull-up bottoms). Ask her whether she'd like you to help her "go potty" herself. Amazingly, she may have gotten the idea. And she may even be ready to use it! If she is, don't go overboard. Let her know in a calm voice that that was what you had in mind. "You went potty just like mommy and daddy do." But be calm, no matter how thrilled you are. If you get too excited you'll overwhelm her. And in the process, you may be interfering with her chance to be proud of herself.

Step 5—If she is really involved in her success, rather than just trying to get you excited each day, offer her training pants that she can pull up and pull down by herself. Then, she'll be on her way!

When the child is interested, you can offer her the chance to plop her bowel movement out of the potty and into the big toilet. Otherwise don't dispose of it until she loses interest.

When the child is interested, you can let her flush it herself.

When the child is interested, you can get her a stool or step to climb up to the big toilet to sit on it "like mommy, like daddy, like brother." But it may be wise to seat her backward, facing in. This gives her a chance to watch her pee come out of her body and sprinkle into the toilet water—a fascinating event for any child this age. Or use a potty seat that adapts to the big toilet seat to make it smaller, and safe. Too often children slip and feel like they're falling into the toilet. This is frightening! It's bound to put off another try for a long time. Seating a boy backward on the toilet seat might save the bathroom floor. But I'd advise that you be prepared for messes around the toilet anyway while a boy is learning the joys of spraying the world.

When a boy is interested, after learning to use the potty sitting down, he can learn to stand "like daddy, or big brother." When a child is interested, try training pants at nap time, but don't be surprised if she's wet afterward. Don't let her feel defeated. Go back to diapers quickly. If you can be confident that this is only a temporary delay, you'll be able to offer her the reassurance and encouragement she'll need.

 

Hi all,

Just want to share my experience.....

we started to potty train my son from 1 1/2 years in india and got potty which was used as a toy rather than a potty. All our efforts were totall flop.

After moving to US , it was very difficult initial days to make him understand, but still i used to take him to pee every 45 minutes or 1 hour. We dint get buy any potty seats at that time and i made him to pee that we use regular.But still there will be accidents.All of my neighbours kids were also in the potty training phase and this will be our hot discussion ,since by 2 1/2 yrs we planned to enroll in pres school which accepts only potty trained.

one day my friend left her son(potty trained) in my house for few hours and my kid was playing with him and watched him using potty. From next day he was quite intrested and he never wanted us to help him to sit on the seet, he used to climb all over which i was very cautions and funny to watch.In my sons case he seems to be copy cat and he does what other neighbour kids dne way it was really helpfull to pass this phase.

After few days i used training pants and he did quite well and slowly we started to take him for short outings without training pants.

We are quite surprised once when we took him to an mall wearing training pants and he doesnt want to pee in diaper when we told.In that mall only 2 restrooms were there and it was quite busy that day:bonk.To distract us from shopping he called us frequently to distract us.More than shopping we spent time standing in mall's restrooms .

Good Luck to all Mom's:thumbsup

Thanks,
spari

 

Hi,

My son is 3.5 years old and was not completely potty trained until 3 years. He used to Pee in the bathroom but for pooping he does it on the Diapers or pants. None of the Ideas mentioned in this thread worked for him. Ultimately i gave up and suddenly one fine day he started using the potty for pooping.I was relieved. Now he himself runs to the Potty to finish his job and just calls me for Cleaning.

Moms, ultimately they would be Toilet Trained by 3.5 years...So dont worry

 

Hi,

Thanks to everyone here who had advised me.. my DD finally got potty trained for pooping at the age of 3, about a month and a half back. She was completely trained for peeing at the age of 2, even at nights she would stay dry. It was so much of wait and finally it happened.. we tried, tried and lost hope and eventually did not force for sometime, then one fine weekend, i thought i will try again.. initially she was hesitant.. but i gave her so much of water and miralax and so it eventually happened. after that one day, she overcame that fear and now she is so excited about it and gives me a proud stare everytime she does it

Thanks to all of you here.