The problem is the understanding in most cases. When compromises are to made and the other person doesn't acknowledge it. When the spouse doesn't want to do a single thing that will make the other person happy, just because they don't like to do it. When explaining don't work. It goes nowhere. When all this turmoil is going on inside a person. All the sadness is directed from the spouse towards you. You start feeling worthless why? Because we as human beings need validation and after marriage the main validation is expected from the new family. Which most times are not given and we face depression. Im not sure what am I ranting about. Just a bad day. I have tried free the mind, prioritise yourself, live for the people who love you. But depression is like alcoholism, sometimes you just fall off the wagon. Then you will have to start all over again. Not a easy ride..