Post Marital Depression Is A Thing.. A Rarely Discussed Topic

I haven’t really heard of this, but I have heard of post-wedding blues. It is the feeling of emptiness after all the carefully planned wedding festivities. It’s this the type of thing you think you are going through?

 

Never heard of this. or may be i didnt recognize it

 

The only thing I can relate to on that article is how DIL is not accepted as one of their own in the DH's family. After the wedding I have heard my MIL saying "she belongs here now (DH's family", but I can see the double standard when it comes to everyday life. She cares more about DH and grand child than me, when we all are in the same situation. It stings but, i believe it is too much to ask for!! I know her very well, that's why and I hear about what she is capable of from DH. So I do not expect anything from her.but, I am looped in all important matters and DH makes sure I am included, even though he is protective.

 

Depression is depression whatever the causes or whatever the names given to it. .It's basically you are not feeling good enough to enjoy life, or feeling not able to cope life's demands..

Are you suffering from anything that is written in the article. What are your depression symptoms exactly?

 

I believe, marriage does not mean you have lost your individuality.... Its an understanding between two souls to build a new relationship strong, not at the cost of your past life... We need to go hand in hand... I feel we should take it easy and try to explain to our spouses... If things do not work, pls make urself independent enough to lead ur life on a longer run... I was struggling for long until I realized, what do have to lose, you have people who love you even today, stay for them, when there is hatred, jealousy in a relationship, then you should distance in mind, but let the soul feel you are there for their concern, but he or she will realize some day, pass positive affirmations, things gradually start working...

I perfectly agree to your point...

This makes sense to eradicate the root cause!!!

 

Well, I am a medical practitioner, sorry to know that we make impressions so soon that we don't see the better side of life.. I am happy to know that some people have assumptions, this is just one dimension to look at, it's most unfortunate that people don't need suggestions, they need recommendations.. God bless!!

 

Considering that people in west usually date before marriage, I don't know where this concept originated.

Most people think marriage is fun and being in charge of their lives, automatically. That's not the case in reality. Our ancestors knew this and treated marriage like a responsibility. Love was celebrated by poets, but for marriage, rules were laid down.

Nowadays, there are no rules, no wisdom passed down from elders and people anyways don't even want to hear elders. In such cases, there will be surprises and disappointments.

It is okay to talk to someone close, like parents, but take care not to share every aspect of your life with them. It will only aggravate issues, if any. Parents usually are biased towards their children and may unnecessarily provide wrong advice based on the hearing and interpretation, rather than facts. It would be best to watch and observe, be patient in the beginning, than to indulge in outburst. Do not lose hope and unless there is something major - domestic violence, or strange sexual behaviors, do not confide in anyone. As I mentioned, it may make things worse instead of providing relief.