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Positives of your MIL

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by radsahana, Jan 23, 2010.

  1. radsahana

    radsahana Silver IL'ite

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    Hey friends

    Thought this thread, when i was continously reading here, so many incidents relating to MIL and problems bcoz of them.

    I know each one of us have one or other problem with MILs. Even i had my shares of ups and downs and problems.

    But common we have to agree there are no person with 100% person negatives and 100% positives.


    Why not share here some of positives of our Mils. Lot of you must be wanting to wrangle my neck :hide:, but just think bcoz of our harbored anger over a long period, we cease to see some positives. (same applies to mils, they harbor anger over her) I am married for 7 years, and i was staying with inlaws, till we came here 6 months back.


    Here is my Mils Positives.

    1. Whenver some guest comes, she eagerly helps in kitchen.
    2. If i make some new dish, she will praise it, even it is not very good sometime.
    3. She encourage new learnings.
    4.She will not talk ill in front of me.

    Friends please share your MILs positive traits here.
     
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  2. tuliplady

    tuliplady Gold IL'ite

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    1) She is very religious and I admire that trait in her, coz I am not.
    2) She does not expect a whole lot from me.
    3) She is at ease with my family and my friends too! and gels well with them
    4) Gives us a lot of space. Does not keep asking us to call them, does not want to know what we do every weekend. Does not enquire about our vacations n how much money we earn and spend. I totally respect her for that.
    5) When I was returning to US from India, she packed two seperate containers for me and dh which had equal number of laddoos for both of us. since we both lived in different cities.
    6) Is not stingy. has bought me lot of jewellery and saree for my wedding n even now keeps sending some or the other things for me.
    7) When me, dh and my SIL are there, she addresses all of us as 'Mulanno' [which in marathi, means--Children]
    8) Even after marriage, she did not question me as to why I was meeting certain friends and why I was going to visit my family.
    9) Eventhoug, I dont have parents she never rubs it onto me.
    10) I also have a grand MIL,She is more sweet than my MIL. On the first morning after our wedding, she at the age of 80, made lemongrass tea for me. The best tea that I ever had. I never have seen my own grandma, but she perhaps would have been like my GMIL as well:)

    To a large extent she treats me like how I mom used to. Of course, we disagree on a lot of things, but all the above qualities make me overlook most of those.
     
  3. radsahana

    radsahana Silver IL'ite

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    hey tuliplady

    vow so much positive traits :thumbsup Even my mil has positive traits
    what you mentioned form 1, 3 & 4.

    hats off to your Grand MIL, for welcoming you so beautifully.

    Hey Ilites lets spread positive about our MILs. Come and share with us.

    P.S. hey tulip, i am born and brought up in mumbai, i speak marathi fluently :) read lot of beautiful books in college, specially of "Sumathi Kshetramade". Pulanchi pustaka sudha vachalye.
     
  4. radsahana

    radsahana Silver IL'ite

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    hey friends

    come on pour in your positives of your MILs. i dont think 10000 members MILs were full of negatives only, surely they will be having some good positive qualities, which you admire in them and respect them for it.:)
     
  5. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    I think there was a thread on this topic before... maybe that's why you aren't getting much response.
     
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    lavii Gold IL'ite

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    here we go
    my mil is good in many aspects in general:bonk
    1) she loves to keep things clean everyday:thumbsup
    2)never postpones her daily chores
    3)very religious
    4)has a good dressing sense wears only sarees but even if its an old old one the way she maintains it or she ties it so nicely and irons it even for daily usage makes her look good at any time
    5)she helps her relatives in cooking etc when she attends functions etc rather than sitting idle even for >80 people:bowdown( except at my place or helping me when i am in need)
     
  7. Aarthibhuvan

    Aarthibhuvan Senior IL'ite

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    My MIL is very active
    Keeps the house very clean
    Very religious
    Treats DIL as equal as DD
    loves Grand children
    supports Dils more than DS
    makes us eat on time.


    regards,
    Aarthi
     
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    reach New IL'ite

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    Good thread.
    These are just few things I like about my MIL-
    1. Always well dressed(sarees only) and greets with a smile.
    2. Very friendly with one and all.
    3. Never expects me to cook a lot or cook difficult recipes.
    4. Calls me 'kutty', which she uses for my DH and SIL as well.
    5. Always buys new sarees for me on festive occassions.
    6. Gives me importance and respects my decision.
    7. Insisting me to join singing classes(she wants me to participate in some tamil singing show)
    8. She talks to the point, and is not a control freak.
    9. She is an optimist. Even if I complain about my DH or mom to her, she always gives me a positive reply.
    10. I've been married for 9 months, but she has never asked me the 'good news' question.
     
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    1. She use to cook very quickly.

    2. Will dress neatly. ( only 9 yards ).

    3. Never eat outside food. Will eat on time.

    4. Maintaining her weight -- very perfect.
     
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    HAi Radshana,
    My MIL has 80% negative + 20% postive characters.

    Positive
    • She doestnt force me to wake up early
    • She used maintain her beauty(she looks like my sister)
    • She willdont scold me directly(she scold me indirectly)
    • She want s to spek to me always.Eventhough if i am fighting with her.
    Thts it!!!!!!!!!!Other than this .i didnt find anything special on her.
     

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