Poll on Dowry

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  1. alpers

    alpers Bronze IL'ite

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    My opinion on dowry is:

    NO.

    It should be scraped off.
     
  2. varhem

    varhem IL Hall of Fame

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    dowry should be scrapped.
     
  3. nikkypk

    nikkypk New IL'ite

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    The dowry system is different according to the region and religion. According to Islam , the dowry or 'meher' should be given to the bride by the groom. and it is also specifically stated that it is the sole property of the bride alone, not the bride's father no the the groom's . When we compare this system to vat is happening in our country ,we women tend to think, hey this is a better system,let the men pay up . But in reality what happens is that the grooms find it hard to meet the brides' expectations (in the arab regions) . But the good thing is that if the couple head for divorce later on,the dowry or 'meher' given to the bride at the time of marriage is considered as a part of her settlement.She need not return it. Actually the meher can be anything, its not even necessary that it should be jewellery,the groom can promise to teach the bride the 'Quraan' and even that vil b considered meher. But sadly this has changed a lot these days. In the middle east the grooms find it difficult to meet the brides expectatns and in our India, the brides parents find it difficult to meet the grooms parents' expectns. Either way it is a financial burden on someone or the other. Even though laws exist in India to overcome this hurdle, we still hear various incidents related to this. No matter how much India goes forward in the field of technology, We as citizens of India should try to avoid this practice. And its not onlky upto the parents of girls, parents of boys should also remember that they are not selling their son to the highest bidder!!

    ps: sry got carried away....was in the serious mood :)
     
  4. nokia6681

    nokia6681 New IL'ite

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    hi yeah its tru ...one of my friends going to marrry next month to a us guy they demmanded 10 lakh INR with 100 soverign gold for her......her father is rich...but i dont know whether they(brides) are happy when they go to US...will bribe(dowry) is not punisble in US
     
  5. priyasree

    priyasree New IL'ite

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    Hi everybody,
    The below words are very true. Even my parents didn't give any dowry for my marriage or they didn't take any dowry for my brother's marriage. In kerala that culture is there in our area(only some few places at Kerala). All these dowry systems exist because there is no property rights for a daughter in a family. Only the son has all the rights. This is not true in our area. If this avoided then there will be no dowry. Then the entire southindia becomes like few places at Kerala.

    Regards
    Priya

     
  6. muzna

    muzna Silver IL'ite

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    dowry system is leading to expansion in an already corrupt systems of our country. many officers who were/are incharge of disbursing compensations/relief for famine, floods ...or other things find it easy to divert money for their daughter's marraiges.and they do give crores as they have not earned it.how can one think that his daughter will live happily with the money which was somebody else's right. strict action by the govt can do some thing in this matter...plus if we start to bycott people who follow these practices.bonk
     
  7. Saideeps

    Saideeps Bronze IL'ite

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    :evil: DOWRY :evil: is a big noooooooo

    i find so many girl's dying due to this social evil.:evil:....... daily in the news paper i find atleast 4-5 dowry deaths.

    but what i don't understand is that in the recent times in some of the boy's families, they "don't demand" for dowry and the girl's parents forcibly give them saying it is for the "well wishes" of the girl......

    now the boy's side says "we dont want any dowry, BUT if u want u can give that to ur daughter on her name,open a bank account.. etc.,"......

    i just dont understand the funda here...girl's parents give money for girl....slowly it becomes the boy's also...later the whole of boy's side ppl... finally the "money bug" bites hard and they demand more....

    it is because there r ppl who still practice giving dowry in the name of daughter's welfare.....this has now become a curse for the girl's parents n the girls who dont afford to give.....bonkDrowning

    these days more the boy's education.......more the dowry.....
    if the guy is settled abroad......so increases the amount of dowry...
    additional are his bank balance,looks etc.... also increases dowry rate....

    finally the boy's get sold for such a costlier price u see....:eek;-)

    now its the turn of girl's parents side to tell others that their daughter married a so n so...from a so n so..... settled in ....etc., therefore it is a prestige issue...u see:hide:

    now whose mistake is it....i think its the girl' s parents mistake i say it is a blunder they commit...cos they give....later face the worst consequences...Drowning:bang

    these anti dowry laws are all there to "protect" the girl. what happens...girl's side files the case and demand back the money..... boy gives it off...then what he will go for divorce n he will get married soon...again for a "good one".

    now the question is...... what about the divorced girl?where should she go? how should she live? the society we are living in "does not respect" the divorced ladies" and this is the blind truth.

    so mostly majority of girl's parents ask the girl to adjust with in- laws......they try to get money which above their heads again for the "welfare" of the girl.....finally all this leads to sacrificing a life by the girl.

    where is the full stop?

    should the girl's parents stop giving dowry in the name of her "welfare"?

    where should the end be????
     
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  8. JustAni

    JustAni Silver IL'ite

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    tsk tsk tsk tsk tsk

    I HATE DOWRY... GIVERS OR TAKERS...
     

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