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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by questa, Nov 13, 2010.

  1. questa

    questa New IL'ite

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    Hi all,

    My son is 10 months old. We are currently in the US. The other day while chatting with my MIL, she suddenly remarked that we should get our son's ears pierced. As a background, we are tamil brahmins and it is customary to get boy's ears pierced when they are little. My Dh and my dad, both have had their ears pierced. However, I do not wish for my son's ears to be pierced. Such a young child to be put through so much pain when he is not going to be wearing earrings :bonk. Anyways, at that point, DH just told her that we haven't really given it a thought or decided about it. She replied saying that what is there to decide, it needs to be done. Now we r planning to visit India for my DS 1st b'day and I worry that we will be forced to do the piercing. After the talk, I discussed the matter with my DH and he said that though he is not averse to the piercing, he would tell his mother that we have jointly decided not to go for it and leave it upto the baby to take a decision once he grows up.
    Still I am not very convinced this will fly with MIL as she feels very strongly about. I believe that as parents, we should be able to decide the best course for the baby.
    BTW, I did not have my nose pierced during my wedding :) and neither was i forced. Please give my suggestions on dealing with this and could anyone explain the rationale behind piercing boy's ears? Thanks!
     
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  2. Spiderman1

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    There is some acupuncture theory behind it, how accurate I dont know.
    But apparently there is some science behind why it is good to have infants ears pierced.

    Someone more knowledgeable can explain. I've only heard some people explain that there is science behind why this is done.


    Final decision is with you parents, after you evaluate the pros and cons.
     
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  3. PeeVee

    PeeVee Senior IL'ite

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    As your son cannot make a decision on this matter, parents have the highest priority..I am also a tamil brahmin..we did pierced the ears our son..initially i was very interested..i had told my elder sister to do it for her son and she never did..so i wanted to do it for my son..but when the actual time came, i was really sad why i agreed with it..both DH and MIL were ready for it..we took him when he was 5months old..ofcourse he cried, but it was just like giving a vaccination..he cried for 2-3 minutes and stopped..but i felt he looked damn cute in his little studs:)..so no regrets from then..
     
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    Hm...If you parents dont like his ears to be pierced,then you can tell in-laws that you dont want to do it now....thats all..Its been in most of our culture that MIL's influence a lot in the decision we make as parents for our kids..But they can only suggest not decide..

    If your DH is with you on this decision as well,then just say plain NO...they will talk about it for sometimes and eventually forget...

    "Veetukku veetu vasapadi ":rotfl (same in every home)
     
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    Good analogy :thumbsup
    I never thought of that. People do take infants to doctors for vaccination + other things which may be painful for 1-2 minutes and then the infant will forget about it and get distracted. And it becomes alright in no time.
     
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    One other reason for ear piercing as an infant:

    There is no fear for an infant. My wife likes to wear earrings, and she likes it. However, 100% sure that if she was not pierced as a baby, and if she had to decide as an adult, she wont get her ears pierced. While she will long for the earrings, she can get very scared of pain.

    But as a baby she did not know, and now she may be happy it was done without she having to "opt for the pain". LOL! :) Now, whether parents deciding for the infant is a smart thing or an abuse, I dont know LOL! But my guess is my DW would say they did a smart choice since she'll be scared to make the choice on her own later on.

    But then when the infant is a boy baby, I dont know whether it matters! :idea
     
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    We had our DD ears pierced when she was 10 months old by her pediatrician .

    Besides temporary discomfort ,there was no infection or any other issues.

    My DH on the other hand keyed up during that process...:rotfl
     
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    Indian boys (incl. some of my esteemed guy relatives) are wearing ear studs in India and abroad, ROFL! Thats the fashion trend, and I'm considered old fashioned for not wearing them :biglaugh


    But at least its a choice the guys can make as an individual adult, so you need not decide for them as an infant.
     
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    If you are living in the USA, unless your baby is for some reason very obviously a boy, I would wait for the ear piercing as Americans normally pierce girl babies only and especially if the sex of the baby is hard to determine (like bald babies). Your baby might be under a constant stream of comments about what a cute little girl he is.
     
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    if pain is the only thing you want to avoid this then thee is a local anesthetic you can apply on the ear for few min and that area will be numb. when you pierce he will not feel any pain. seen this done to my nieces.
     

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