Happiness has become a competition.. Suffering has become a competition.. If you say you are having a tough life,the other person claims he or she has it tougher.Indirectly they mean that they are “working harder” in life If you share your happiness ,the other person tries to ruin your thunder by overshadowing it.. Life has become a competition and constant comparison.What is the need? Do we check ourself when time to time we also do the above? Why does the EGO get triggered so much? Are we addressing our insecurities and turning inward to eradicate it? Are we really happy? True success is not having the best of things and status but having a mind which is at peace. Diverting is only a temporary solution but being blissed out even when doing nothing is the best feeling. Lack of comparisons ,doing only what we really want,finding contentment,being flexible to changes of life and adapting accordingly,finding happiness with our reality,channeling your desires the right way goes a long way in being happy. Even then the world will try to rip you apart coz honestly many people do not like seeing others truly happy.One need not share their happiness with others to “look” successful but be your own judge.Self awareness is the best way. The positive quotes in google might motivate but always take it with a pinch of salt.It is all man made and sometimes it is toxic positivity.”Never give up”,” your best is not best enough” all these sounds great but do not blindly get influenced coz if one does not achieve their goals in time,it might even lead to depression. There is nothing called failure or success.Everything is a perception and life is just a game.Learn the game,enjoy and play it without tracking the end goal. Society is just an illusion.Me,him,her,this neighbor..all together make a society.What is the need to prove to others that we are awesome.Never put anyone in a pedestal not put yourself in a pedestal. If someone has achieved something..great.It is what they want.The tears and pain behind that is the “sacrifice” they made to get what they wanted.One needs to walk through the fire if that is what they need.They are just working for their dreams. That’s all.It never indicates they are better or one is lesser.We all have our personal dreams and we need to understand what we are ready to sacrifice and what not and just stick to it.Even a small cooking which is appreciated by our family is still an acehievment.Never underestimate yourself. More importantly..No matter what others say or do..it is only you who knows the real you!you live with yourself and not them.So every time ask yourself “ Why should we get bothered by the comments of someone who just met me one hour? Why am I not believing myself coz am the only one who knows me completely and is with me all the time” People die any moment.I personally know of 4 or 5 people who passed away before 40! Extremely sad but all that career,money,status,friendships did not save his or her life.We are not better than Mother Nature.Stay humble. Marketing and consumerism.Social media influences society.Period.They sell products indirectly hinting that buying them would make your more prettier or happier.Does it? Many end up overspending,getting into debt and losing their health.Be smart and don’t fall prey to the marketing gimmicks. Some People feel just coz they earn more or they are very pretty or they have worked very hard..they deserve the best of relationships,best happiness.All that hardwork will buy a million dollar mansion,a Tesla or a merc but not happiness.Happiness is a state of mind.Money buys comfort but not happiness.Yeah true it is comfortable to cry in a Ferrari but that person is still crying and stressed. Working hard for what we really want is happiness and passion.Working hard without the love for it is stress. Every problem has a solution.Take calculated risks and how we perceive the problem and handle it takes care of most of the problem. Relationships are one thing but stay detached.People come and go.friendships come and go. People will help if they will and people won’t if they don’t want to.period.Never be a people pleaser. We come alone and will die alone.Be detached and have less expectations from anyone. More than identity,one needs to have humanity. Life is unfair and certainly some people have advantages over others but so do you in many other ways.People would love to have your life when you are trying to live the life of the other.Grass is greener on the other side. True independence is being content,debt free and not blindly being a slave to desires and others opinions.We control the mind.Not the other way around. Have a goal in life.It could be anything but have a goal.Everyday work towards it.It gives a state of contentment and fulfillment.If your goal is to be happy..even better! Do things that make you happy everyday. Celebrate your life! Most importantly..Celebrate yourself! You are deserving and just beautiful the way you are.Love and self care is very important.You are unique and there is nobody in this world who is like you. Life is how we make it!Be honest to yourself and life for yourself.Life is too short to live according to the society perceptions.Be you. In the words of Shakespeare..”The world’s a stage and we are all actors and actresses”. Nobody is getting out of here alive. Let’s be self aware and pave the way for bliss. Signing off..philosophical me Peace and love to all!