Personal space in a relationship.. Important??

Hi Unknown,

Seems as if its me and DH you are talking about...lol...we are together, you can say, the entire day...same office..same table...we had been going around for 5 yrs before getting married, now married since 5 yrs...and these last 5 yrs, we have been seen always together...with a very very few exceptions....We are with my in laws .... I was a doc by profession but after marriage..changed my profession and joined him in our small business..In last 5 yrs, we shifted office and house thrice being on rent and finally last year got our own office n house....Everyone takes it for granted that any matter that one of us knows about is sure to be known to the other...WHerever we have stayed till yet, house or office, people have always recognised us as "the love birds or the couple thats always together".

We have become so addicted to each other, that at times when I am for some reason unable to go to office, either he too wont go...or will come back within 2 hrs or so...We have a lovely daughter who'll turn 4 now. What she learnt to utter as her first words was - mumpa = mumma + papa .

Now for your question I understand you feeling weird about this...but honestly we never feel bored of each other...in fact we are addicted to each other...of course, he doesn't accompany me to the salon..lolz...but even when I go to my mum's place for a weekend, my parents know for sure that if 1 night has passed without he being there..the next day he is sure to come and touchwood my parents and DH are very very comfortable with each other and can discuss any damn thing on earth. We have never felt that we need any personal space or are lacking that so called space...Also, I think its not fair to say that since a couple is working toegether that means they are just enjoying being together...working means working at least in our case

Touchwood...to have been blessed with him but I just yesterday told him - as each day paases by, I feel another day of life with you has got over..Life seems too short to be enough to be spent with you all the time...I love him so much n so does he !! touchgold..

PS - ours was a love marriage and yes we got together after too much stress n tensions..may be thats 1 reason of the many other efforts that made us feel so

Love,
Supriya.

 

Hi unknown,

it wld be great pleasure if i had known u thumbsup.. I thought u just stole the words from my mouth. I jus accpet every word of ur opinion :iagree and i too hv felt the same way when i see many couples who keep sticking to each all the time. I had even got into argument on this issue with all my friends & family.. I feel not only between husband & wife but between any relationship there is a need for PERSONAL SPACE.. i hv almost seen no one accept this opinion of mine and u r the first one i hv come across am so happy tht am not alienated:cheers...

Doesnt mean tht i hide any facts from my husband but i cant take him evrywhere and share everything happ to me..We luv each other very much no doubts.. I dont like when couples use each others mobile casullay( like taking calls, checking for smses), emails etc.. It annoys me immensely :bang... Ofcourse i do share interesting smses, fwd or emails but tht shld be at my will & not at his will.. i hv even seen my sis & her hubby always talking to all of us in speaker phone( she claims she doesnt hv anything to hide) huff... This explanation sounds so much immature to me.. But am so thankful tht my hubby also agrees with me & doesnt intimidate.. And i also dont take his calls in mobile(if he happens to be away frm cell), or chk his mails.. for tht matter v even dont knw our passwords..

Probably i think bcos i always luv to be independent, i hv developed this attitude.. This is my opinion.. Excellent word u used-- SUFFOCATION:bowdown.. def i wld feel suffocated whoever it may be.. what u say ladies :hiya?? def i think wld get brickbats..