PCOS support group

Discussion in 'Fertility & Trying to Conceive' started by Sankna, Mar 1, 2008.

  1. Sankna

    Sankna Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Friends,

    I thought I could share my experiences till date trying to conceive. We have been married for more than 3 years now.

    I was diagonised for PCOD when I was 17 years old.Before that my mom used to take me to Ayurvedic doctor becoz she scared ( infact everyone around scared us ) that allopathic doctor might give harmonal medicines which have serious side effects and I might not be able to conceive in future.But since those ayurvedic medicines did not help me in anyway to regularise my periods.After two years of continuous trial and error with herbal medicines, the ayurvedic doctor herself suggested that I meet the Allopathic doctor and to get an Ultrasound done.

    Then we came to know that I had PCOD and had to take medicines to make my periods regular.When I took them it used to be normal . But the month I stop the wait begins sometimes six months also as I got really frustrated at having tablets everyday.I also found it very difficult to shed extra kilos. Above all this I started getting painful pimples, male pattern baldness , overweight , dark patches in the back of the neck.I was in that age when I had to spend time studying hard as I was into a professional course. Then I started my career, things did not improve on the physical & mental side. The waiting time used to be so very frustrating .. u never know when to be prepared… always carry one in ur bag..I was somehow thinking that I was the only sufferer of this syndrome. But browsing thru the net and reading more abt the experiences and medically understanding the problem gave me a different insight to this . I made extra effort to reduce my weight. I used to make it a point to get up early and walk/jog for 1 hour . I also started to take my tablets regularly. Then things improved and in few months I started getting my periods regularly once in 30 days even without the tablets.

    My wedding got fixed and by then I had lost much weight and was getting regular periods . My doctor suggested that ( infact pleaded me ) I should not delay pregnancy and try to conceive in the first month itself. But things didn’t turn out well as expected. I didn’t conceive for three months so I consulted my doctor and did an ultrasound done and came to know that my cysts were back…. Again I started getting irregular periods… whenever it used to delay I used to think I was getting pregnant and go and get a urine test done. The disappointments were too painful for me & my husband also… Now back on tablets and regular exercise. And still trying everymonth for the past 3 years….

    As we both are working couple, we have work tension My friends advised me that I should not quit my job and that sitting at home will increase my worry,Doctor says don take tension & anxiety just wait it will happen.But its difficult to practice that …as I am so conscious every month ,,, which might also be the reason for me not conceving… This issue has also caused tension in the family… with inlaws upset that they didn’t choose a FERTILE girl for their son…. And all visitors asking abt when there would see a baby in the house..

    Life has become painful now.. disappointments every month.. not able to concentrate at work.. and feel of guilt of not being normal.. I try to meditate to push of negative thoughts from my mind.. but its gone very far now…

    Ladies.. sorry I really sound very depressed in this ..

    I would also like to know your experiences in handling this situation in ur lives..

    Luv,
    Sankna
     
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  2. AnithaA

    AnithaA Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Sankna,

    I can perfectly understand your problem. I've also been diagnosed with PCOS when I was 17 yrs old. I have also been married for 2.5 years now. We've been tring for a kid for the past one year but not much of success. This is what my gyneac has to say about this : She says that for about 40% of women, their body type is like this. It is not a disease it is just your body type. So please do not feel guilty! Just accept your body as it is and try to relax. I've noticed that ever since I've started relaxing, things seem to go smoothly.
    Unfortunately, it is a bit difficult to get pregnant with PCOS naturally. We happen to need some assistance. As the first step, my doctor has suggested a laparoscopy to remove the cysts. She says this will give room for the new eggs to grow and mature. Also she said she will give medicines that will stimulate the eggs. She said this way there is a good chance of getting pregnant.
    If this doesn't work out, there is IUI. Here, they inject the sperm directly into the uterus at the time of maturation of the egg. They will closely monitor your follicular cycle before this. I've heard the success rate is good.
    Last option is IVF. This is sure to work if nothing else works. But you might not have to go all this way. Discuss your options with your doctor. If you find the doctor is still bent on conception without aid, then maybe you should look for a better doctor.
    Don't worry, you will conceive soon. My SIL had PCOS and she conceived(with a little aid from medicines) - it took her 3 years of marriage. One of my other relatives has PCOS and she has a kid conceived through IVF. Do not lose hope! Just believe in yourself and stay positive. You have the support of folks here at IL, so just relax. Eat healthy, sleep well and consult a good doctor. You will soon hold your own bundle of joy! :)

    Regards,
    Anitha
     
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    Orange New IL'ite

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    Hi friend,

    Nothing to worry big abt this 'delayed issues'. There's a lot of technological advancement in this infertilifty field. PCOD alone is not the major factor for infertility, apart from that there are many ...... Most of the ladies have this PCOD complaint, including me Even I faced the similar situation 5 yrs back. I waited 5 yrs for my son to come. All because of the same problem. Medical treatment for the past 5 yrs made my mad. I was induced to a number of tablets and injections. But I did'nt give up. Being a housewife I spent most of the time invalid, thinking abt my dark future, but slowly recovered, by insisting my self to start a pg course thro corres. Apart from this thought, 'baby' I had nothing in my mind. Finally, I had been suggested to undergo a laproscopic surgery to remove the cyst. After 2 months, the remarkable day came, I got concieved.

    Even now I feel, I had wasted the first 5 yrs. of my colorful married life, just thinking abt 'issueless factor' {Dont' commit the same mistake of mine}

    So, be cool, Don't get worried, Unless ur tubes are normal, u can go for larpo. Ask yr Dr. abt laproscopic surgery. Once it is corrected u get yr periods regularly. Try to get concieved thro ' Medical asssistance like (IUI, IVF, ECSI ......) as soon as u finish larpo. Since this PCOD is a cycle, If u put on wait, u'll get PCO; If u have PCO, u'll put on wait.

    Doctors say the main reason for PCOD is harmone imbalance, obesity combined with stress.

    First of all......
    # Opt for a superior infertility specialist. (Don't change ur Dr. until u succeed)
    # Never give up the treatment in between, out of frustration.
    # Relieve yrself from tension & stress. (MEDITATE)
    # Keep urself engaged always. (AN EMPTY MIND IS DEVIL'S WORKSHOP)
    # Concentrate on weight reduction.
    # Divert ur mind to something cheerful, other than baby factor.
    # Don't leave yr job, sitting at home idly, makes situation even worse.


    ALL THE BEST, "NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE UNDER SUN"
     
  4. vivbass

    vivbass Gold IL'ite

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    hi,:hiya
    Don't worry dear...iam also having this probs,what u all said is true,iam also facing this well....initial days of marriage everymonth ,after pregnancy test,just for 5 mins i can't wait to see the result,and then -ve result,intially i felt very bad,used to cry,now itz normal thing for me,if it is-ve,i'll think ok nextmonth,like that it went 5 yrs,hahahha...
    the point is u should not loose the hope...if u think abt kid,defl'y it'll upset u more...so b happy....as always DRs adviced be happy,don't depress,it'll affect the hormones....
    u left those inlaws,relatives words.....only u & hubby have to think abt it...
    for the past 3 months iam undergoing painful treatment....but everymonth i didn't loose my hope,i'll think like this only,everything is going for good only,god knows when to give child,now he is giving time to enjoy with hubby...so all the best dear,i wish u that u'll tell the good news soon.:2thumbsup:
     
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    Dear Friend

    Please do not upset yourself over what people say or do. Just focus on making yourself well and keep mental peace.

    Also please get your husband to do a sperm analysis. Infertility is only caused by woman's issues 40% of the time. 40% of the time, the man may have a low sperm count, or bad morphology (sperm shape) or some other issue. This can easily be fixed by getting an IUI done where they wash the sperm and inject the healthy ones into the uterus.

    Also, try to get some ovulation prediction kits. They can help you pinpoint the time you actually ovulate so that you can increase your chances of conceiving.

    For PCOS you should also try a low-carb, high protein diet. Carbs are bad for people like us and removing them from the diet will help you loose weight and also make your cycles more regular. Please continue with your excercise as well.

    And above all, DO NOT LOOSE HOPE. You are not alone, and many others in the same condition have conceived using medicines such as clomid, femara or injectibles such as FSH. It can be done and I am living proof :) of the same.
     
  6. vshetty

    vshetty New IL'ite

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    hii.
    when i was reading your post i felt i was reading about myself.. so i can safely say i know exactly how you feel.. but stay positive and u are not alone in this.. it will happen ... stay fit and loose weight.. thats the key word..if u feel low or depressed u can always share it..
    all the best,
    shetty
     
  7. gokusha

    gokusha IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi,

    Though many of our Liites has given their valuable comforting words,i felt i should surely give you my soothing words too...

    I know the pain of longing for kid, being lost my kid immediately after delivering her in c-section.But believe god will surely make us happy one day .

    I like to share my own friend's experience with you.One of my very best fnd had same as you, was diagnosed in her young age.She use to tell &worry alot with me about this. But luckily she got conceived immediately after her wedding.

    Another friend had same problem, after all treatment they went finally for IVF.It failed in U.S, then they gave a try in India....god has blessed them with beautiful girl baby...So don't leave your hope....surely you are going to enjoy your motherhood one day....

    I wholeheartely pray the god........
     
  8. Shanvy

    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    Sankna,AnithaA,vivbass,vshetty,

    Please relax. the key is Relaxation. nothing more. PCO is because of hormonal disturbance caused by various factors.

    Always think of maintaining your health, not only for pregnancy but later on to take care of you sweet responsibility your baby..

    with the advancements of science it is only a matter of clicking at the correct time.

    I don't know how many of you believe, but it is said, that it is decided by all our karmas, when and to whom a child is destined to be born...

    So I feel that there is somebody waiting for God to give go signal...

    I pray to God for all of you....

    Relax and enjoy life....
     
  9. AnithaA

    AnithaA Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Shanvy,

    Your words reinstill the hope in me. :) And this makes me very eager to meet you. Lets meet sometime soon. Thank you for your words.

    Regards,
    Anitha

     
  10. Shanvy

    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    Anithaa,

    Hope is the thing that keeps all afloat.....will definitely meet....let us see how things go....
     

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