Hi ILs - I have a problem and wish to get suggestions on how to deal with the stress that I am facing. My FIL is retired and MIL is working. FILs mother stays with them. She can get by with minimal care. They all live in their hometown. They have two sons - my husband and his younger brother who is unmarried. We have a 2.4 year old son. These are the occasions my PILs did not care to attend. 1. When I went to the US - not even a single call 2. My son's Annaprasanam 3. My son's Aksharabhyasam - This day both of them went to my MILs sister's daughter's baby shower function. 4. My brother's thread ceremony. We called and begged them to come for 2,3,4. They told they need to take care of the aged woman or that my MIL did not have leave or no tickets. For 1, I think they have some obligation to come but that did not happen. I am deeply hurt by their attitude but me and my husband are terrified of them. If we ask, they might get angry and stop talking to us altogether. Now, my BIL is going to the UK. My MIL took 4 days leave and she is here in my house. She even brought a full bag of home made stuff for him. She did not bring ANYTHING for my 2.4 year old son. Now, my FIL is leaving his mother also to a neighbour's care and getting ready to come here without any worry about ticket/mother's care. I feel this is gross injustice. I feel they are utterly shameless to show their faces here when they did not attend for anything else. It is burning up my heart that me/my husband cant ask them what is going on. All I need to do is let them know what we think. My husband is a coward who cant talk to his parents looking into their eyes. Instead he is telling me to adjust and compromise. What shall I do?