I live outside India with my husband and toddler son. My parents live in India and they come down and stay with us for almost 4-5 months in a year, partially in the summer and partially in the winter. We stay in a large flat with a full-time maid, so basically their stay here is very relaxed. They do not have any work as such to do. They can rest, watch movies, go for walks nearby etc. Whenever they are here i try my best to take them out wherever i can but i felt over the years they actually do not want to go out too much. They told me particularly my mother than they are getting old and prefer to chill at home and go occasionally to the beach rather than go out to malls etc. I understood this so then started doing my own regular things, I am very busy in terms of my work, gym and other sports. However, issues still always seem to crop: -After this change i feel they are now complaining that i do not spend enough time with them. When i try to sit with them and ask them about their day or what they did, they complain a lot. They complain about everything and anything say the vegetables i bought were not up to the mark, why i should go and physically buy and not do online shopping, how my maid cooks badly and steals ghee etc. my son is not eating properly and healthy etc. Though i am okay to listen and improve this cannot be daily conversation. Most of the complains revolve around my maid who i agree is not the best but it is not easy to get a good and trustworthy maid meeting all the requirements. -The complaints are so much that one cannot sit in peace after coming back from work also. I feel when i take them out for lunch or shopping they are more at ease and there are less complaints so prefer spending time with them in such ways rather than at home. I try my best to be cool and ignore and never say anything but really difficult to have a normal conversation with them in such a scenario. -Interfering in where i go out and where my husband goes out. My husband does not like to be questioned when and where he is going. -Also forces me to buy a lot of stuff for the home (not for them) like kitchen stuff etc which i may not even need. I guess she wants to fulfill her dream of owning these things. I don’t mind spending but i don’t like to waste money and buy items we do not need and hoard stuff. -These things stress me out when Im trying to peacefully rest post work, its like when they see me sitting peacefully, they remember issues. So much so i avoid working from home even if I can. And its not like they are here only for 2-3 weeks then i can leave everything and focus on their visit and work from home and not go out etc. But when it's almost 4-5 months in a year to change the schedule so drastically gets difficult. Mostly my mother has anxiety and stress, and this is creating the issue but I’m finding it more and more difficult to manage the situation for myself and for my husband’s sake. Is anyone else experiencing such issues and best way to handle without hurting anyone sentiments and yet managing to hold our ground.