Parentified Indian Children/sons

Is this common in Indian culture? Where from a very young age when children are not old enough to understand - they are made to feel responsible for adult or family problems of their parents? This has happened to my spouse his whole life by his mother. Now we are raising our son - he realizes he was abused. And my family - they never did this to me or my brother as kids. I feel angry for my spouse and his pain.

 

Thank you. I consider myself to be a logical thinking person so I know I am correct. Especially as I myself am raising a son. I guess it’s the culture or society that allows the elders to get away with it. I come from one that punishes elders for abusing children this way. The way I see it I chose to bring life into this world. My spouse and I chose my sons shelter and where to send him to school. I choose what I feed my family. So my son is not responsible for things he cannot control. Where I live, if you fail to provide food, water, shelter, education, emotional and psychological care on top of moral education more recently..you can lose your parental rights. I just know his parents are highly narcissistic and they tried to do the same on my son in his early days. They were trying to manipulate my four year old into believing he was responsible for the emotional care of his grandparents instead of the other way round. A child. My sons love for his dad is unconditional. For who his father is as a person not the lifestyle he furnishes on my son. His kindness, humility and compassion. That cancels out his parents wrong thinking.