Hi sanarthi, Tell ur father that it is not healthy conversation, tell him that because of your force only I felt stress and didn't want to do what u told, tell him that u can't forget those punishments. It made a scar on you. Tell that it is OK, if I am unfit, I have a loving husband to love who I am, and lovely kid, and cool life, that's all everybody longing for at the end of the day. Just think how ur kid will feel if kid listens your father criticizing. So it should stop even if everybody feels sad for few days. Tell when your mother is also there, she also should know. he may feel sad , offended, but he will know what u felt.