Hi Ladies! I am here with a peculiar (or maybe not!) problem and would love to hear your opinions. My daughter is a 7th grader and is a straight A student. Apart from the average American pre-teen challenges that we've had with her, she is a sincere, obedient and happy child and takes her studies seriously. My husband is a loving father but he has very high expectations of her. He is a product of one of the most prestigious institutes in India and is a very successful professional and expects nothing less from our daughter. You would think what is the problem in that? The problem is that he gets overly critical of her and keeps comparing her to other kids constantly. That irks her a lot! And she gets into either a very stubborn mode or feels disheartened that he doesn't appreciate her enough. He teaches her additional math/science (apart from school curriculum) and expects her to follow up on her own with him on those things. She does the bare minimum and then gets distracted with school work/friends/TV/Social Media etc. so doesn't usually take the initiative to go to dad with questions/next steps etc. and waits for him to ask her. This is the biggest bone of contention! My husband thinks she is not serious about her studies/future hence takes things very lightly and gets mad at her. He is not very happy with her disinterest in taking initiatives towards studies. I think/hope she is just being an average pre-teen and will get serious about her future with age and maturity, which I assume should gradually happen by the time she is in high school! We both know that our daughter is very smart and she has also excelled academically so far. I believe in gentle parenting and have faith that she will figure everything out with time and guidance from us. But my husband thinks that we need to tighten the noose as far as studies are concerns if we want to send her to a good college. He thinks I should support him when he criticizes her and she thinks I should back her up when dad gets unreasonable! I have lost perspective on how to handle this. This constant battle creates a very unpleasant environment and I don't know what to do. Please provide your inputs/suggestions! Especially if you have older children and gone through this phase with them.