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  1. piu

    piu New IL'ite

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    Dear friends,
    one of my friend have a problem I'll share with u.can u pls suggest.I paste here her problem that she write to me.


    I’ve a problem that I can’t discuss with anyone. I don’t know is it my fault to not understand it easy way or is it really problem of my husband. He is not interested on me after marriage but he was very good boyfriend n playful that time. After marriage lot of things happened to our life. My Mil continuously blaming us particularly me for no reason. u know what happened in love marriage………. After 1month of marriage he started chatting with other girl who has a **** website. I shouted over him, cried,…..lots of things…then he stopped chatting with her. He blame me that I’m selfish,jelous,low mentality women ...etc...etc. as so many Indian my parents won’t allow me to divorce then I planed for baby. But he is the same after baby coming. When my baby is 10days old .he come to me n said he enjoyed his friend’s **** video. That day I can’t say a single word to him. I was too shocked.not only these he preserve his chat friends photo n share other boys that he has still hot girls in his msn. He preserves hot pictures of celebrities whom he likes emotionally. I think he has desire too in those.I feel really helpless, ignored n I tear for those.In my life everyone said about me that I’m the most beautiful women,soft hearted,innocent,well mannered with brilliant education.my hubby also said about me that I’m really very sexy n beautiful, but what happened to him now I can’t understand.Why h those other women..celedirites..even with lady wrestler. why he is staring at them?e is not coming to me, ignore me n busy with
     
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  2. mithili

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    MAM CREATE VIRUSES THT HELP HIM CLEAN OPERATING SYSTEM...REDUCE ALL THE THINGS IN HIS FOOD THT HELP HIM GET SO MUCH OF VIGOUR AND DRIVE THT HE NEVER GETS TIRED OF ALL THESE THINGS....MIGHT BE U CAN TRY BREAKING HIS COMP LIKE THIS...:bangcomp: ......MAY BE U START TELLING HIM A STORY OF UR NEW BOYFRIEND....
     
  3. malspie

    malspie Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear Piu,

    We had a very senior official in our office who religiously visits sex sites. he would pretend doing some work and nourish his eyes... he he...

    I would advise your friend to just leave him alone, instead of pondering why and what..

    She should also open some sites and nourish her eyes tooo.... Whats wrong.. behave like him and they write back to me.........
     
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    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    dear piu,
    i feel sorry for u, but i wont let u cry in self pity, some men are like them, they love only porno, enjoy great chats, they die as charmers nothing else, so it is not the baby for sure which is going to make him look at u, given a chance he would had advised u not to have a baby,
    these men cannot think beyond themselves, so its time u concentrated on one thing at a time, and please go about life like yes i have a bag and it is dirty too beyond recognition but it is my bag what can be done, i like it so i keep it...hope i have not dissappointed u, when u are on the other side of life your mind cools and comes to terms,
    yes, life is like this ..nothing can change the more u frustrate the more u suffer, so it is better to come to terms and live accordingly, and divorce is only based on a quality is wrong, our upbringings may be different but he must be loving you a little atleast for you to go ahead and have a baby. pl be a cheerful mother, not all get this opportunity to be a mother, enjoy that, let life take its turn, i am sure one day you would say, my husband, the never bending tail like a dog...hahah cheer up, and give hugs and kisses on my behalf to the little one whom you owe a lot now..sunkan
     
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    i feel the problem needs a solution not a compromise with the query..am sorry gotta to give it a thought and a better solution ..it is not only a problem to asa single woman but so many ladies who suffer emotional loss due to this....ILS PLS GIVE STRONG SOLUTIONS TO PROBLEMS...NO COMPROMISE PLS..IF COMPROMISE WE WUD NOT ASK U FOR SOLUTIONS..
    CHEERS
     
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    Mahajanpragati Platinum IL'ite

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    dear piu,
    i am sorry to hear about ur problem.but many men r like this.maybe before marriage also he was addicted to pron but u have come to know about it after marriage only.give him space.let him watch all those videos & let him chat with so called hot girls.soon he will get fed up with these.but take care if u feel it is becoming obsession, like he is ignoring his work ,then he may have to seek medical help.
    also many women tend to ignore their husband after baby i hope u r not doing this.try to involve him with baby's activities so that he feels like father .
    also see how much he loves u that he shares this with u.do not judge him too much.
     
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    As long as the other woman doesnot come into your personal life physically you dont whine and whim. It will make him more adamant. Just leave him alone and toruture him with your love:mrgreen: . He will slowly understand your undying love.
     
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    Kavta Senior IL'ite

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    • firstly get some virus into his system and let the operating system crash. let him loose all the contacts.
    • change his passwords.
    • wantedly you keep conducting some homas and poojas in your house. let the house be filled with those dhoop sticks smell and some bakthi songs always.
    • keep kaali kind of pics infornt of his computer or in every single room he goes...keep all kind of God pics in every room.
    • he may not change still.. then try giving him 1 or 2 sleeping pills in watever he takes so that he will not be awake to do that dirty things anymore.
    • when he discusses his prob with you suggest him going to some meditation kind of things. take him to some ashramam or such things. reduce the dosage of pills u give him on that particular day.
    • let always your house be filled with relatives who always interferes in whatever he does.let them go and talk talk talk only with him.
    • all of your house mates go and sit with him always.
    • in the office.... he may not be enough time to visit these sites and need to think of ideas ..
    anyways be cheerfull and always indulge him in taking him to some childcare centres...parks..nurserys...temples.. some photo sessions..etc
     
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  9. Vaylan

    Vaylan Guest

    Piu, let me ask you a question. ( Assuming that your husband is just watching general **** and not having any actual relationship with other women )

    Specifically what troubles you about him watching **** ? Choose one of the following -

    • You feel he may be drifting away from you
    • You feel he thinks other women are more attractive than you
    • You are generally brought up with traditional Indian values which feels apalled at things like ****
    If you have any other reason not covered above, share it with us.

    I do not think you can solve this situation by just calling it your husband's problem.
     
  10. Shanthi

    Shanthi Silver IL'ite

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    Wow Kavta,
    Now that's advice. Women with husbands like these should not cry and be emotional. They should be cunning, brave and very practical.... In one word SMART!

    Piu.... get your friend to be more brave instead of crying. She can't afford to be like that. She has a baby now. She has a great responsibilty towards her baby. She has to provide a loving, healthy family environment for her baby now.

    Wonder where women get the idea that having a Baby will help them solve problems !!!


     

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