My older one has issues and covid and stranded in india just worsened. I do not understand her personality, she is not interested in anything. All she wants or like is people giving to her but she hates giving away specially if it is something she does not have. Her enmosity is particularly with her siblings or close friends. She becomes quite shy and submissive and easily bullied over or pushed over outside. Anyways, i ask her to make bday card for her friend. No.. she did not make me card. She did. But it was not a good card. We need to buy present for friend. Buy this.. do not buy that. They did not give me good present.. We were in India at in-laws. They do not give her anything. At my parents, she gets showered and pampered. So she is telling me, why no one gives me anything here. Anyways current situation is - how to deal with this situation of giving away or buy something different for her friends that she does not have or sibling. She is very hard to talk to and gets offensive and raise her guards and voice if i try to reason with her. Same like her father. I am sure many kids are like that.