Hi Everybody! I am working on addressing all my open wounds these days and seeking closure so that I can "heal"and move on with life. I want to change as a person. I want to take charge of my life! I had a best friend in school. She and I were inseparable. She was the more dominant one and could take all the decisions for the two of us- crucial decisions back then like which "proposals and advances" by boys to be complained about to the authorities, which ones to ignore, etc etc etc. I was always secure that there's someone to lean back on. We were being raised in quite a similar way with the major difference being that my family is transparent and open about everything - all our info is in public domain- whereas her family would not do so. Despite being my best friend, I had no whiff that time that her brother is a substance abuser and that he creates scenes in the neighbourhood. Obviously, my family too was completely unaware of all this. And surprisingly, we lived in a place where almost everyone knew and respected each other (and so I assume that nobody wanted our cordial relations or my precious friendship with her to get ruined.) When we were just a month away from our board exams, one of their neighbours (whose family was associated with us through occasional business transactions) told my friend's mother that the whole world knows about her son's addiction and misbehaviour and that my mother has spread the gossip around. The friend and her mother must have been obviously hurt and decided to abruptly cut ties with me and my family. Several attempts to address the issue were responded with a cold reply or not answering phone calls or changing schedules so as not to cross paths, etc. We were completely at a loss to understand what was happening. I was affected badly. Despite being an excellent student, I underperformed in my exams. Several of my other friends distanced from me. I was being subtly avoided from being a part of any conversations/ hang outs. I was dropped from the list of invitees at all the birthday parties back then. Birthday parties were very important social events back then and i was devastated.