Not talking much to in-laws, Never been happier

This is not a question, but just want to hear your thoughts on this.

I currently live in the US with my DH. We have a good time here and both of us have strong careers. We are getting a house together and I am very excited about everything. I got married three years ago. That time I was in India. I visited in laws place often few months before marriage. They were very nice but I sensed MIL was very insecure since she has only one son. But her son was in the US even at that time. She constantly told me that after marriage I should not think about settling in US, (First of all I dont think she has the right to tell me what to think and what not to) because she has only one son. Also my DH had discussed before wedding about "his" wish about returning back to India, to take care of parents. I was very innocent and I felt his reasoning was fine so I said ok. Even after saying ok, MIL kept pushing the idea on me, and kept saying (now more like demading) "You MUST come back" even though I hadnt even stepped foot into the US.

DH kept telling me to pursue higher studies in US instead of looking for job. So I wrote entrance exams(not easy) and applied to college. By then I got married and left to US. I got a very good score in entrance exam, hence I was able to secure a good college nearby to my DH work place. We were very happy and I joined School. For one year after marriage, MIL only mentioned once or twice that Ive to come back in few years. But slowly I grew to like the US (especially the place I live) I have many friends here and I like the independence and privacy. Nevertheless, I kept an open mind.

During winter break I went to India. Thats where the big drama started. First MIL was very nice, and gave nice food and everything. Then DH and I went to stay at my parents and then for two days at my sisters house. Thats what made her burn(even though time spent at both in parents house was the same) The she started complaining: you are not cooking in my kitchen, when have you decided to leave US? You should give more prioritiy to in laws rather than parents, etc etc.

Then too she did all this two days before us leaving to the US. She treated me so badly, always saying one sarcastic remark over another. I was also so stressed out from the trip, I started crying very much. I didnt want to talk back to them because they were in laws.

After few days the trip was over, I came back to the US and re joined school. My school was getting very stresssful with lots of studying. BUt more stress was the thought of everything that happened. I felt betrayed. I spoke to DH about it, but he told me that his mother would never say such things. This kind of mis trust made us fight every single day. Finally one day he called his mom and asked her if she said those things to me, and the mom simply denied it. So stupid DH tells me that his mom didnt say those things and since she is denying, I should leave the topic. I was furious.

My relationship with DH slowly started changing. I used to cook lots of good food and give him food where he was sitting. He never lifted a finger to help me with household activities. All this changed. Slowly I stopped cooking and started eating frozen food. I blamed my exams. I stopped doing household activities and started telling him to do it. We also fought about going back to India. I told him I have too much commitment in the US now with my studies, and job afterwards, so I cant go back when MIL demands. This made DH very angry and told me that I "cheated" him. IF I told him this before marriage, he would have never married me. Everyday we would have petty fights.

Finally DH and I came to an agreement. He will take care of his parents, and I dont have to be in the picture. He will do what ever he wants for his parents, without involving me. IF his parents ask for anything from me, I should direct them to DH. This seemed to be a good plan and I decided to take the one way ticket out of DH-MIL-DIL relationship! I decided to be happy with DH and not worry about ILs anymore.

It has been two years now. I still remember everything MIL said to trouble me(unfortunaltely) I try to get it out of my head. I havent gone to India in these two years, so I havent seen her face. (very happy about that) But I have spoken on the phone and she now has a very "dont care" attitude towards me, like I stole her son. Sometime I hear her talking to my DH and she puts on a big drama about how she took care of her MIL but now a days some people get away with it.(she doesnt need taking care of currently as she is very healthy)

I dont speak much to In laws anymore. Usually I used to speak once in two weeks, but now, I speak only when I have to wish them for occasion. Then too, it is very brief. i dont want to speak until they say something I dont like, and they dont want to speak because they are not "sure" what offends me(duh)

Frankly speaking, Im not sure where this is going, But I must say, Not having Inlaw interference, I have NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!