Chanced upon this vlog this morning. I love watching travel vlogs and to see India through the eyes of outsiders. Watching this really intrigued me and had me scratching my brains for a bit. What a happy relationship - at least what is being portrayed. Makes me wonder, would it have been the same if it had been a local dil? I suspect it may not have been so. Expectations and demands from dils and from pils are that much greater when the marriage is within the community or between Indians. In an international marriage, the pils have lower expectations, are more easily impressed even with the least effort on the part of the phoren bahu and to the dil's credit, she too is trying really hard and not taking anything for granted. The lack of 'familiarity' prevents the 'contempt' from building up. That, I guess is the secret of a happy, healthy marriage - no expectations. Treat the other party just like you would friends or acquaintances when it comes to expectations and do the best you can as you would do for family.