It might sound like a small issue, but i'm so worked up on this. Out of two daughter in laws, I'm the least favorite one as ours was a love marriage. However, we are the only one giving them money and they visited us multiple times in the past few years. I understand it's our duty and I have no problem with it. For other grand kids birthdays and my sister in law birthdays, my MIL would ping us multiple times to make sure we wish them on time. My MIL birthday was 3 days before my son's birthday. We both wished and even then she'd reminded us to wish her on her tamil birthday. I'm really angry that my in laws didn't even bother to wish my son on his birthday. Until now, they never called us for any of our birthdays. Even for my daughter's first birthday, it was only an e-greeting although my MIL is a heavy whatsapp user and could have called to wish her. Although it bothers me that they sent only e-greetings, my husband is happy as long as they remember the kids birthdays. When they visited us a couple of years back, my mother in law acted wrong and I stopped talking to her in the last month before they left. We didn't invite them for a couple of years and I didn't talk to my mother in law until her this-year birthday. In-laws spent almost 9 months with my son and he just turned 4. I just don't know how they can forget his birthday when my in-laws remember everyone else's birthday in the family and expect us to wish everyone on time. We were feeling guilty for not inviting them again to US and just recently asked them to visit us again (shame on me for forgetting the past incidents). Now I'm wondering why we should do this considering they don't care about anyone in our family. When they visit us, my in laws doesn't help on a single thing. My MIL would expect me to cook on time and expects us to take them out every single week. She has a problem if we go for free events. Expects frequent long trips. They have food restrictions as well. So I need to cook and carry food everywhere we go. Lots of work for me with no peace of mind. They even tried to create misunderstanding between my husband and I. After knowing that they didn't wish my son, my husband is ok to not invite them and let the request go. I just am not able to accept the fact that they don't care about our family and just want to enjoy their US trip. Why should we sponsor their fun trip when it's going to be a nightmare for me and no love for the family. However, I'm feeling guilty to say no if they talk about the upcoming trip. So far I have managed (?) my in-laws well as my husband and I are on the same page. He was quite surprised that they didn't wish my son. My husband and I work full time with a tight schedule. I'm scared to bring them (even before this incident) because i'd have to work more. Even on days when I am running out of time, my MIL will not help. They'd expect us to order food outside (only from specific restaurants no matter how far they are). I'm also trying a new venture and hope to spend my free time there. Whenever in-laws visited, all my other interests were on hold because I would be spending all the time in the kitchen. They wouldn't even offer to take care of the kid even for an hour. On the other hand. they don't expect us to follow their suggestions or advice. Although they cannot see me taking decisions for the family, they'd adjust because their son is on my side. I hope to get your feedback on what you'd do if you were in my shoes. Would you stick with your offer to invite them or let go of the invite?