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Newly Married - Questions about Intimacy!

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by lalithakumar, Apr 3, 2008.

  1. rose8282

    rose8282 Platinum IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    I'm shocked, to say the least.....havent you guys had an intercourse since your marriage?or are you planning to have a baby directly?before you both plan for a baby...please read up and gather enough information...I would say hold off your plans for a baby and enjoy your life a bit...babies can wait.
    Anyway to answer your q...ask your husband to finger a bit..you could even put your finger in to show him.this is the best practical way...else just get hold of some good books and watch some x rated movies.
     
  2. coolheart

    coolheart New IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    @shashiprp, how stupid!!!!
     
  3. shashiprp

    shashiprp New IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    @coolheart -> i dont understand why this is called stupid . I mean i believe this forum is to ask any question and get it clarified.. However silly or stupid it looks. If it is a stupid question then you just keep quiet rather than responding that way :rant
     
  4. infinitehopes

    infinitehopes Bronze IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    Dear Shashi,

    Please don't get mad at the fellow ILite.. she involuntarily spoke her mind. Actually, you youself did too - right - by putting "silly" in the subject?

    Also, at times, people just post such queries to woman's site because they are perverts. And so, the members do react aggressively to such questions - which look very imaginitive.

    But your case seems to be genuine and hence you got mad. So are we :cool2: now??

    Ok - coming to your question.. I have a few questions first:
    1. How long are you married?
    2. How old are you and your husband?
    3. Do you yourself know where it is located?
    4. Do you know what intercourse means?

    You may want to know why I'm asking this. But its very important that you first explore your own & your DH's body before even thinking about getting pregnant. But if you married late, then may be you can try immediately to have a baby.

    > Added
    Just locating vagina will not solve your problem. You may face further issues when you really try to have an intercourse. Please go through this link to get further understanding on the queries you may have: http://www.indusladies.com/forums/f...1-newly-married-questions-about-intimacy.html
     
    Last edited: Oct 7, 2010
  5. grihasta

    grihasta New IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    Shashi, there are quite a few sites available on the internet which has all the basics of sex. There are a few books suggested on the newly married link that infintehopes has posted.

    There are lots of sites on internet with plenty of videos too which shows all the details :)
     
  6. hemalathaK

    hemalathaK Platinum IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    Wow fantastic reply:rotfl:rotfl:rotfl:rotfl
     
  7. infinitehopes

    infinitehopes Bronze IL'ite

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    Re: Did anyone face this silly issue

    :) Thanks Hemalatha!

    Dear Grihasta,
    May be she or her DH needs to ask it differently when they search on net.. because for this exact question the only answer I got through all websites was "between her legs" :rotfl

    Anyway.. Dear OP,

    Are you still here?
    If not, I'll request all members to not respond to this thread. We suspected it to be fake ID initially, but then thought may be its genuine. But now that the OP is not getting back, I think its safe to assume it was fake.
     
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  8. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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  9. infinitehopes

    infinitehopes Bronze IL'ite

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    SP,

    Good to have you to apply that algorithm!! :) Thanks for the early warning.
     
  10. Pls.help - Very confused about some personal intimacy question

    This is a private question - not sure where else to ask, hope ppl can help me here.

    I'm married for 3 years. But very confused abt this issue.
    Talked to a few close friends (girls) but they seem to be as confused too :bonk

    1. What is female orgasm?

    2. Have you experienced this? I'm not even sure why I dont even know much about this. Somehow I was confused only men have orgasm. And frankly, even my husband does not know too much abt this :bonk

    3. I did some research and I learned that some women cannot experience orgasm via penetration, and only other means (maybe oral etc). But my hubby dismissed that as nonsense, and said what I'm reading is rubbish, and I should stop reading things like this. My hubby is against oral sex on women (he does like it if I do somethings for HIM, but he will not reciprocate and refuses to try those stupid things as per him). If I stop it on him, he is ok, but he'd rather not try anything for me. He is conservative in this though he is foreign educated and quite broad in many other things.

    So, I'm thoroughly confused abt why he wont help me try for the orgasm???

    4. Question on masturbation - my husband says most women get orgasm only by masturbation. I told him I have never masturbated my entire life, and he says - "You are lying". I am upset by this. He says "All people (men and women) have masturbated to orgasm at least few times in life", and he says either I am not normal or I am lying. Is he right? I dont feel like I wanted to masturbate even as single or married. Are most people (men and women) have done masturbation? Is that the way for women orgasm.


    Sorry if my questions are stupid. I am absolutely confused :bonk

    And one final question
    5. Given I talked to a couple of my close girl friends, and they also were confused - is it that Indian women (and men) dont have much clue about female orgasm or they think it is not needed. Why do women not need pleasure too?
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Nov 11, 2010

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