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Newly Married - Questions about Intimacy!

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by lalithakumar, Apr 3, 2008.

  1. SriVidya75

    SriVidya75 Platinum IL'ite

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  2. lifezbeautiful

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    Dear honestguy,

    Do not worry. Trust me, things will get alright and you will have a normal sex life.

    To make it comfortable for her, I would suggest you penetrate only a little for the few days. Maybe 3 or 4 inches. Take things slowly.

    I've sailed in the same boat and things worked out for me. I just had to believe that I could do it. Thanks to IL.

    All the best!
     
  3. honestguy

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    Thanks for your advice.

    I dont think you got know my problem.
    The problem here is, i am not able to enter her at all.She complains of enormous pain when i try to do it.Have tried few lubricants also, they were of little or no use.
     
  4. Ooviya

    Ooviya Platinum IL'ite

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    HI,

    don't worry. in early stage, most of them (girls) facing like that. gel will help u lot. first be relax,apply gel more. if she feels or think about pain, then she will tighten her muscles and loose her interest. so start to insert little bit in initially with gel. but try maxi. 3 days in a week. then automaically everything wiil be solve.
     
  5. honestguy

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    Thanks.

    I tried with gel, no use. she complains that it is too thick.
    Do girls have a problem with thickness of male organ, mine is apprx 1.5 inch. The problem is i am not able to enter the tip. Tried female on top position also. No use.

    Moderators:Sorry for my detail replies. Please delete the post if it voilates the rules of this forum.
     
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    radhaparth2000 Platinum IL'ite

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    hi honestguy,

    I think the solutions provided by our IL's are common one's that have worked for most. I feel you can just take their advice as guidance and cannot expect solution. If taking to the Gynec didn't work I am not sure if you will have consult a sexologist(like Narayanamoorthy??? Google it).

    They are the experts and can fix your case. All the best and have a happy married life.

    Mods,

    May I request to remove this post from this section as its nothing to do with Preganancy or TTC. Should we merge it with A-Z of intimacy?
     
  7. lifezbeautiful

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    Re: Seek help and advice.

    I totally get it! I went through this for a very long time.

    More than the pain, i guess it was the fear that made me scared and not want him to do it. Maybe, your wife is scared too (of the pain). If she is tensed, let her take some wine (this really helped me).
    We just kept trying (maybe more than 100 times!! I know) and then one fine day BINGO..

    Try fingering maybe with 1 or 2 fingers and see if she is okay with it. Hope this helps.

    Dont worry.

     
  8. Ooviya

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    Hi honestguy,

    I can understand ur situation. I think Better u both consult Sexologist or Urologist. But i hope ur problem is not major one. I also newly married. In early stage i also felt difficult. Then i change myself and tolerate d pain in initial stage. so Don't worry.
     
  9. honestguy

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    Dear lifezbeautiful,

    I think you have got it this time.
    Its both, the fear factor (50%) and the size (50%) that i think is responsible.

    I want to ask you something, would not be appropriate to discuss it here.

    Is there an option for me to send a personal message in this forum.?

    Thanks again for your time, well appreciated.
     
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    question about sex

    Well,I tried to look around for threads related to sex related discussions,but couldnt find any.So Im asking it here itself.
    Im a person who cant bear pain,and always try ways to stay safe right from childhood (i.e avoid sports,avoid risky situations:rotfl).This attitude has made me scared of sex.Its been more than 2 years since i got married,but still the fear hasnt gone.Whenever we have sex,first 5 min of penetration is still painful for me.I read many places that after first few times,there will be no pain thereafter.My best friend also testified to this.So,why do i still have it?This makes me not to enjoy it much.When I say pain,it is not unbearable.I can bear it,but at this stage,I should not be having any right?So I hardly initiate it (my dh is so understanding,he stopped asking and waits for me)...and we have it maybe once a month:cry:
    I asked my gynaec,she asked me to have it twice a week,use lubricants.I do use lubricant,but as i said we do it once a month.I dont have orgasms too....I get stimulated seeing sexy scenes in movies,I love my dh very much...but to have sex myself,i act like a monkey.Whats wrong with me?Any advices anyone?Plus I feel ashamed to ask this(not making fun...how does everyone do the doggie style..it just beats me.:bonk
     
    Last edited: May 13, 2010

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