Never ask SORRY!!!!!

You should come by more often - I for one would definitely love to hear from someone who has been there.

Vanathi.

 

:thumbsupI forgot to subscribe the thread & lost the chance to voice out my words.... in agreeing with many already discussed points.

Yes.... Teaching children to use the words is not enough, if you aren't doing it yourself. It really turns me Rant off when anyone does not respond to a "Thank You", "Sorry" or "Excuse Me", especially in shops or markets in Mumbai. After seeing my daughter in regular intervals, they respond. That shouldn't be the attitude. Say it, no matter what!

I insist that my daughter say "Aap" instead of "Tu or Tum", but in Mumbai most people speak in the "Tu or Tum" sense - Tum ko kahan gana hai? Tum ne khana khaya?, etc.... Although some people converse with her in the Aap sense -Aap ne khana khaya?, etc, she doesn't get why they say "tum" to wach other. My hubby too speak "Tum-Tum" with his brothers. In the background, my daughter will be repeating like a broken record "Tum nahin Aap....Tum nahin Aap..." But no matter what, it's hard to explain to her why he can say, & she can't.... Grammer is another troublesome thing. :spin

For those of you whose kids aren't saying sorry/thank you.... Wanted to ask, have you tried the sticker method? Every rude behaviour gets a rude sticker & every good deed a smiley sticker.... This worked out for me too, as it was more visual to her about how many times she has been naughty & nice

 

Vahee.... Tried sending you a PM... but there was some prob...

The sticker method is very simple -

a. Get some round stickers from the stationary shop.
b. Make smiling faces & Grumpy or rude face on some.
c. Make a something like a table - On one side write various actions - Saying sorry - Saying thank you - No saying sorry or thank you, etc.
d. Everytime they do the action, you give them a smiling sticker. For not doing they get a rude sticker.
e. You could also add things like Eating your veges, Puttin toys back in place, etc.

You could add incentives like, if you get all the stickers then you get a special gift... but for every rude sticker, you lose your fav thing to do - no watching your favourite cartoon, etc.

Be sure to put it up where she was see how she's doing - & when daddy comes home, ask him to notice the smiling faces & show her how proud he is.

Let me know....

 

You can print out blank sticker reward charts from this site. I have seen the kind of stickers that JustAni is talking about in book stores and Walmart.

Raj

 

Raj..... I use the round stickers which are mostly used as labels. They come in different sizes.... It's blank & plain white.... So you can actually make the faces in front of the kid - "Which face do you get?".... I used markers to make them - So red was for good work & Green for rude.

A neighbour's boy still comes home pledging me for a sticker everytime he sees me - I stick a smiling face on his shirt.... Makes him smile even more.

 

hi guys,

me back...:hide:.

Nice to know the sticker thing..I have tried implementing the chart with stars like a black dot for each bad behaviour and a star for good... at the end of the week a toto and a lecture. though i have stopped, as they themselves come and confess their mistakes...

but me thinks, are we making the kids expect an appreciation for whatever good they do..are we teaching them to expect..

See, as parents we can do..but later on, the kids start expecting from teachers, which may happen and may not happen.

again this is my loud thinking....