Dear Samal, My family is actually in the same situation as yours, the only difference is that my brother and I are grown up kids now while your DS is still a child and your DH still a young man. My family( parents, my brother and I) have settled overseas since the last 20 years, while the rest of the family is in India. Most people on my fathers side are dead, or too old, but mom has her mother and 2 sisters. It is us who have to call them everytime, this has been happening from many years, but last year was the limit, I and my mom stayed in India last year for 1 whole year, and sadly we realised, us being there made no difference to anyone. People hardly visited us, some even forgot to invite us for family gatherings. In 1 year my grandma hardly got time to visit us, she was so busy with my younger cousin who is in school, always cooking for him, teaching him or doing something or the other. He has his own mother to look after him but grandma would still not let go of him. My mother had to undergo a surgery, just for the sake my grandma came to the hospital, and then left. I took my mom home alone , and took care of the post operative part on my own, nobody came to help. My mom was very hurt after that, imagine how it feels when your own mother doesn't care for you. Since we have returned, I have not talked to my grandma, I just don't feel like talking to her. On my mom's birthday last month, till evening nobody wished her, she was so sad the whole day. I told her not to care about people who don't care for her, and spoil her day. My dad and I took her to a nice hotel for dinner, and then she was fine. So you see Samal, physical difference brings distance between people, and they tend to grow apart. 'Out of sight, out of mind.' My mother is a woman, and that too an old woman, if she was hurt, it is completely acceptable how bad your hubby is feeling, men are more vulnerable, and emotional about such things especially regarding their parents, that too a young man like your husband. This is where you have to come into the picture, and take charge of the situation. I completely agree with what Guesshoo has said. You need to take care of your hubby like your child right now. Even if he screams at you for nothing, don't say anything just give him a hug, make him feel you are there for him. You be his mom right now.Give him more love and affection, even the part on his parents side, so that it fills the void in his life, and he forgets abou being neglected. I don't agree witht the fact that he cannot talk to you about his parents, and hence should go to a third person. Your bond should be such that he should be able to talk to you about just anything, and vice versa. That will bring you closer. I feel a husband and wife's relationship is the most precious in this world, and if the two have a strong bond and are together with each other, then you don't need anyone in this world, not even your parenst or your children. And now coming to your question, will you still keep relations with them. YES......My mom insists, that however they maybe, they are the only immediate family we have, and no one can take their place. One day they too will realise this. So, my cousins who are formal with us, and only talk to us when we meet them at social gatherings, we still try our best to maintain some relations through facebook etc. In your case I suggest you do the same, continue chatting on skype and everything, just make sure now that you don't show your desperation to them, if they don't care, show them too that you all are doing just fine without them. Your hubby and son seem to be emotional, let them to show your vulnerability to you and not in any care to your BIL or IL over skype.