Hi All, I wanted to shared what I am going through. I am working in IT comp and got a chance to go onsite 3 yrs back, I always wanted to quit job after marriage so that I can raise my kids. So I wanted go onsite for a few years so that I can save for my family and latter on quit my job. But he didn’t let me go stating he can’t live without me. He also sated that he would take care of my finance in future. I shifted to another place because if him, He paid for most of the stuffs (I don’t even remember how much, cz I never thought it would be important). During initial days he used to give me money whenever required. Now I can take care of finance. 2 yrs back he wanted to buy a flat, I told him I can’t afford to pay EMI since I already had a loan which I took, he told me he would take care of it. I took a personal loan again to meet the 20% of flat cost since bank doesn’t pay 100% cost as part of home loan. Now my brother met with a huge loss in his business and now is he is just able to meet the needs, and wanted 2 lakhs for buying a flat. So asked me if I can take a loan, EMI would be paid by them, only problem is he can’t take direct loan form bank because of some issue. My BF is asking me not to take the loan since incase faces loss in his business he wouldn’t be able to pay EMI. But I wanted to help them, when I told my BF that I would take the load, he told me I own him 3 lakhs. He did some calculation and included the additional costs of buying flat. I refused and told him that it was him who wanted to buy flat and I made it very clear that I was not in apposition to afford the flat that time. He is saying how wouldn’t marry me and wants to break up. My question is am I wrong in helping my family? I wanted to go to onsite to meet the additional expenses. Still whenever we fight he raises this pt that he gave me money and still give me sometimes (he give me, I never asked him). It hurts becase its not that I can’t earn more, I could have but only cz of him I didn’t I don’t know where I am going wrong, but I am really tired of this. I wanted to shared with all IL friends. Even as I am typing I am crying, I am so tired now and feel stressed out al the time because of his nature. Can any one please advice what I should do?