"X" has been trying to reach me for quite sometime over messages n calls from December 2020. I have been genuinely busy with my mommy duties. Haven't been able to get back to X other than few messages "hey wassup, been busy, will return your call" etc. X has been a part of "college best friends gang " . We are from same group who have had the best college memories. X moved to US many many years back and happily settled there (still studying in fact). In the usual Whatsapp group X had initiated a video call and l I couldn't be a part of that call. I didn't bother to check with Y and Z (other friends from same gang) about the video call. Thought it must be the usual chit chat call. . Y and Z had asked me a couple of times in personal messaging If at all I spoke to X anytime . My vague replies were "no been busy, will get back to X " kind of messages. Y gave hint "talk to X, X has been trying to talk to you ". I thought maybe X is finally engaged or settled and hence this "talk to X" is coming up. Anyway Y n Z (me Y Z are much closer n have another sub group where X is not a part of) messaged and said looks like you I can never make time at all for X and shared that X underwent a SRS (sex reassignment surgery) . In the video call they had X had been particular that until he/she shares it with me, Y and Z are not supposed to tell me. The rest of the chat with Y n Z went like "what, how, why " . But Y n Z finally said that they felt I have been too busy to talk to X and hence they informed me. So now I have finally messaged X and apologized for not making time and confirmed I'm doing a video call this weekend n X agreed and was Happy saying "someone is finally making time for Her/him" with a laughing Emoji. My questions : 1) Should I ask X myself about it or wait until X says?? 2) How to make X feel comfortable about it? Want to assure that I'm genuinely happy for the decision. Don't want to make X feel uncomfortable in anyway. 3) what kind of conversation I can have with X? I don't want to be asking wrong questions about the decision . I'm asking this in this forum because when Y n Z told me about it it was vv hard for me to accept it as these things are new to me. One of the close friends changing gender has not been the easiet to accept. I don't wanna end up with wrong conversation asking anything offensive ,rather give an assurance I'm happy.