Hi NTBS, It sounds like he’s immersed in his own woes and taking all that you do for granted and expecting even more. I know you feel insecure to confront him but really there is no other way to make him realize except by your pointing it out. A simple and silent way to make him and in-laws realize how much you are doing would be for you to go visit your parents for a week or two but it seems you don’t want to do that. Given that restriction I see no other option except for you to draw some mental ‘lakshman rekhas’ in your mind and every time he or in-laws step over it to register a protest. Do it immediately, do it calmly and firmly and look them directly in the eye when you do it. Do it every single time. Then and then alone they may start to realize how unreasonably they are behaving. There is a saying ‘only the squeaky wheel gets the grease’ so I suggest you should squeak loudly at every opportunity. Secondly if you are stretching yourself to do something extra then don’t do it silently. Protest. Point out how much of an effort it takes, negotiate, and make them help you. In short stop silently and quietly stepping up to do everything they put on you. Start opening your mouth, talking about how you are tired, or fed up at the way you are being treated.