I am going through a very rough patch in my marriage. Ever since the pandemic started, our married life has taken turn for the worse. He is generally a moody and impatient kind of guy. once upon a time he was good to me but not now.. 1. Offices closed due to pandemic and staying indoors..he used to love talking to colleagues and office life and going on breaks, team dinners, team lunches, professional networking etc. The pandemic has taken this away and he gets irritated staying indoors. 2. In laws long duration stay..they stay mostly with us and occasionally in native. Their requirements, expectations etc make him irritated and he shows on me. 3. He has this idea that since im a homemaker im useless and lazy etc,. he always taunts me for not being in a well paying job..i did get an interview call and job offer but due to some reason it dint finalize..im trying and ready to take on any kind of part time paid or unpaid work but he is not supportive and doesnt feel im capable of anything. Criticises my cooking and makes unwanted comments on my food or my household work. even when i make genuine effort to do certification or job application he acts like he doesnt care..ive lost confidence in myself.. 4. Home makers in my family circle are enjoying life by keeping 2 maids, i.e morning and evening...cook..driver etc.. i need a maid atleast part time vaccinated maid ..(im in India)..he taunts saying why i need maid and am i so lazy that i cant do chores myself. if i ask him for small help like arranging small items, washing few vessels, cooking one dish either sabji or dal when unwell, he gets so pissed off and does with anger...earlier some years back he wasnt like that..we had a maid for cleaning work and chapathis and he wasnt so aggressive if i asked for help. even small help in looking after kids he doesn't want to do.. if he does the help he does grudgingly and with complaint. I bought a few household gadgets during lockdown so i can get relief as maids were stopped...he became so aggressive and yelled at me for wasting money..i had infact saved money because the money that we would have paid to maid during lockdown periods was much more than what i spent on household gadgets. Even when my tentative job offer was there he said i should do all office work and household chores on my own with no maids and if i cant manage i shouldnt take job..but i didnt get that job. some years back when i was working he had no problem with me keeping maid or cook..why is he like this now i dont know.. 5. He gets pissed off or small things and yells..like a small item kept here and there ..water spilt in kitchen while cooking..some days my dress would get soiled while doing cleaning work like dusting shelves etc and i would change and that also irritates him and he taunts me as to why im adding so much to laundry. 6. Sleeps and wakes up as he wishes and slightest disturbance to his sleep by me irritates him..even if i get up early morning and finish cooking before he gets up still he has a problem with the coffee i make. 7. work related stress is there for him and i dont trouble him unnecessarily ,i do my work and mind my business.. he is the one who makes a small thing an issue.. 8. Nitpicking throughout the day..even if im having a casual phone conversation with friend or relative he shows contemptuous kind of look..the way i arrange groceries, the fine layer of dust on a shelf, the way load laundry in washing machine everything irritate him. I feel so damn envious when i see how other home makers my age are being treated like queen by their husbands..full freedom to buy what they want, freedom to keep 2 maids, full time maids, cooks, order outside food and designer clothes as they like. Why im treated like maid servant is it my fault i cannot get a well paying job and earn big money.. if im financially independent i would have boldly walked out on this guy and left him. 1. Ladies, i noticed ever since pandemic started he has become worst kind of person.. Does the pandemic cause this.. 2.If normal life resumes and he gets to go to office and work as earlier will it help..and socialize with friends will it change his personality.. 3. Im surprised that a guy who was a reasonable and somewhat supportive has changed gradually into an MCP over past 1.5 years.. . In general, how to handle an extremely short tempered person , for my own peace of mind?Till things get better..want to save my marraige..he wasnt this bad earlier..since 2019 end or so just before pandemic started his personality changed. Please dont advice me to leave him or separate from him or to go and stay in parents home etc..Till the time im financially independant i am not ready to take any drastic step.