Need for strength

kanaka Raghavan · Feb 3, 2007

Dear friends. My husband is much better now. planning to go to India shortly.In the meanwhile I had one more shocker my dear father passed away on thursday early morning.We were planning to leave immediately. But my 2 brothers in law in Chennai asked not to travel immediately as my husband 's health would be affected if he travelled with this emotional stress.They proceeded with the last rites.My brother had stayed with my father for 10 days and had reached Canada only on wednesday.My father never believed in keeping in an ice box and wanted to be cremated as early as possible.the day he died was thaipoosam and his riuals were performed at the right muhurtha.He was great man and immense source of strenght to all of us.He always had very positive attitude towards life and he always believed in helping people in whatever way he could. He was immensely happy when someone became a grand parent and gave them the placard"happiness is being a grandparent.My relations were amazed at the crowd of people half of them whon no one has seen.He died an instant death.In and each every problem for many people he was there to help.My real regret is that i could not see him.But i know that had been alive he would not have allowed my husband to travel with this emotional stress.I am slowly trying to get over the grief.Iknow it would take me avery very long time being the youngest in the family and living in madras for the past 16 years where my parents also live.But at this juncture I remember my dear father's words"sorrow of the world passes away like a shadow of death...................Thank u all for ur patient reading.

Vandhana · Feb 3, 2007

Dear Kanaka,

My heartfelt condolences on this bereavement . No words can ever express the grief that we all feel when one of our parent passes away.
You new found IL family is here to see you through this tough time. You can count on all of us.

Vandhana

Shal · Feb 3, 2007

Dear Kanaka,

I join Vandhana and all our other family members here at IL in providing you solace during these times of hardship. I am unaware of what is going on with your husband, but watever it is, May he get well soon and May you both live a happy life again. Like you mentioned, losing one's father is dreadful for he is the one who stands by us during times of stress. Hope your family gets through this period of grief with strength.

Please convey everyone at home my wholehearted support and Kanaka, do let me know by pm if you ANY sort of help. I promise to try my best to help you.

Chitvish · Feb 3, 2007

Dear Kanaka,
Please accept my heart felt condolences on your bereavement.
Having experienced the same, I know a parent's death is very painful and no words can console you.
Please remember, we all join you in paying tributes to the departed soul & pray God gives you & your family, strength of mind to bear this loss.
Love,
Chithra.

tehzeeb · Feb 3, 2007

Dear Kanaka,
Please accept my Heartfelt condolences. I do not know what to say at this moment. But I can understand the feeling u are going through. May god give you the courage to accept this and May he give you the strength to withstand with this sorrowful situation.

Just remember that we all are here to extend any sort of help possible. I know that it will take years to cope up with this situation and to digest that he is no more. But just remember that he will be there with you in everything you do directing you the right way. You just need to feel his presence. so pls be courageous & patient thinking of the great days spent with your dad and leave the rest to God.

Bye

Vidya24 · Feb 3, 2007

Kanaka,

Please accept heartfelt condolences from me and Ramji.I am very sorry to hear abt the demise of your father. I lost my father three years back and can empathise with your grief. From reading your post, He seems to be such a gentle person. For such persons,death is not the end.Their soul just moves to a softer,sweeter,safer haven in Shivapadam.

Vidya

vidhi · Feb 3, 2007

Dear Kanaka

My heartfelt condolences. I know it is very hard to accept. May God give you the strength to go through this phase of life.

vidhi

sathya · Feb 3, 2007

hello

thalaithanai kodi vitta gnapagam
pallikku sellum pozhudu kooda vanda gnapagam
satre adhi pattu sraithukkondalum
udane odi vandu
achacho solli `ponal pogiradhu vidhu'
enrum...

theriyada paadam thanai therindu kondu
sollithanthu
pudithaga thonriya kunju pol
thookkam marandu adai kaathu..
pinnatheriyavittalum koondalai
konal konalagavenum pinni
sofavil thoongi vittaal
thalaiyanai vaithu...
thanthaiyin paasangali
vivarikkavum mudiyumo?

azhudu azhudu veengiya kangalukku
kannerai thudaithuvida
pennukku aarudal solla
udalaal pirindaalum manathal varuvaare
thuyaram theerpaare...
kadaikutti mel yaarukku daan illai
adhiga paasam?

anbana aathukkararukkaka
kavalaigalai etrukkondu

paathukaappaai udalnalam
nin uyirinum melanavarai
anbodu upasarithu

un kannil neer vazhindaal
en nenjil..
enru naangal vendumanal paadugirom
avarai paada vaikkade

i hope u know tamil

sathya
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sunkan · Feb 3, 2007

very sorry to hear the news

dear kanaka,
life gives us many pleasures and dad is one beautifull relation, the first love, infatuation,admiration,a sense of belonging moral support that u draw...i could go on, may not be in sight but very much in thought always even after many many years i think my father u know in all ur speach is only him and noneelse, hope u come out of this crisis slowly but with more strength to think of him in a pleasant manner, good luck sunkan

Selvi · Feb 3, 2007

Dear kanaka,

Im so sorry for the loss.. I exactly know how u feel..Its really hard to console urself in this situation.. I was in same situation 3 months back, I couldnt go on time to see my father for the last time bcos I live so far away.. But I just console myself that I would remember him now only as a happy person , not as a person to whom all did last rituals after his death... I dont want to remember him in his death bed. I hope u feel the same way.. Of course you will remember him in each and every activity now, but just console urself by thinking all the good times u had with him..

Take care of urself & ur DH too..