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Need Advise - How to Spice up married life

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by payalg, Jul 10, 2007.

  1. payalg

    payalg New IL'ite

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    Hi ppl,

    I have been married for almost 2 years now, no kids yet. Our married life is slowing lose charm, gone are those wonderful days just after marriage

    Nowadays our appetite for togetherness is loosing and we end up in fights a lot of time. There is a lot of irritation on small petty issues.

    Is this natural, any tips on how regain interest and have a fulfilling relationship emotionally and physically

    Thank you in advance
     
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  2. rajmiarun

    rajmiarun Gold IL'ite

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    Hi,
    The chemistry of marriage is not that easy to dissolve. Try something romantic and try to bring back the chemistry. Try taking off for a week force your husband also to do it go to some newplace and you can have your second honeymoon and you will find yourself rejenuated and it will help you out. Dont worry all will get well sonn
     
  3. diana

    diana Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi,

    The problem is that even after 2 years one still wants the loving (honeymoon)moments still continuing till the rest of our life. Which is not so. You cant be goody goody all the time.

    The main thing one should have is the touch for one another, that is one shoudl be there whn the other needs him/her. Which is very very imp.

    We feel that it is common to have small small fights every now n then. But these small small fights makes it a big one and slowly drifts couples away from each other.

    Always bear in mind, a couple are two individual people, with different likes, moods and tastes. Give space for each other, stop being over-possessive / over-protective and your life will always be happy.

    Once a fortnight spend time going out and having fun. Doing all this keeps the flame of LOVEalways burning for each other.

    All the best.:2thumbsup:

    Diana
     
  4. sunikris

    sunikris Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi Payal,
    This is a comon issue which come between Husband & wife bcz of in-laws problems or diff.. tastes, likes & dislikes & diff views
    This will go in ur 4th or 5th yr of marriage.

    try this one...keep ur mind busy with some hobby & think(dream) about ur husband like ..when he comes & what to do for him..

    pepare some good dish for ur husband, weekly once surprises with his favourite dishes
    like friday evening surprise..plan soemthing nicely for him ..like candle light dinner at home
    nicely decorate ur home
    & U can wear soem thing which he likes..
    & before ur husband comes home in the evening dialy light one potpurri candle & pour Lavender solution on that
    I am sure this Lavender smell relaxes mind & u won't get arguing thoughts & all
    Really Lavender works nicely.It gives romantic thoughts too.

    Remember ur newly married days

    Try this & let me know
    All the best
    Suneeta
     
    Last edited: Jul 10, 2007
  5. Kamalji

    Kamalji IL Hall of Fame

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    Payalji,

    Your situatio is like that song " Main ka karoon Mujhe buddha mil gaya from sangam the movie.But here buddha is not the case:x

    Thre is a saying in us " New Bride,9 days " meaning the charm of the bride is over after 9 days of honeymooning and it is back to the daily grind.


    See any marriage stales very soon, that is why God has made it that children are born,where the attention of both is shifted to them.Have children and see the joy back in yr marriage.

    For yr children u will go to see circus,see cartoons, play with them,and uyr marriage will become new and enjoyable.

    Good luck.regards.kamal
     
  6. subbutr

    subbutr Senior IL'ite

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    Our dear Payal,

    Life is not full or miracles nor obstacles.

    Both plus and minus factors to be explored with balanced mind.

    When two souls merge in to one with all likemindedness thoughts fruits of expectations bloom.

    Do not let your dream die, allow it to fertile with the partners full fledged co-operations.

    May be both of you are frustrated for not having the kid is the main issue, That's not in our hands and it's a gift from God.

    Share your intimate moments with him and be in the good books of his interests and experiance that aweful results.

    Go for a pilgirmage or sight seeing trip, may be that atmosphere brings you both an another experiance of togetherness.

    May all blessings of nature and Lord showered upon you...

    Subbu
     

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