Hi Everyone, I am working women and marriaed on July 2010. I wish to give 1/3 portion of my salary say 10k out of 35k to my family . Husband agreed wiht a condition that I can give the money to my family after informing his mother (ie my MIL). He too gives 3/4 of his money to his family every month though not necessary. What I feel is that Mornign from 6.30 to 9 till i come out of my house i will be working with no helpings hands from my husband. night would reach home after 8.30 and have to cook and clean.So for the money i earn i work double than my husband. added to it we should visit my in laws house every weekend ( since it is 2 hrs from my house).because of tat no week ends i can clean the house instead i will clean the house when things boil in gas(ie will put potatoes in simmer and will clean the spider web etc., ) So in this case why should i inform to my MIL, My MIL is also a woman who will show the non acceptance immediately( no matter is she dosent accept i would give my parents). I have faced many non acceptance. i cannot digest the way she shows her non acceptance to me.. tat will hurt a lot .. she wil never talka alot to show the nonacceptance. a simple look or a smile or a phrase will kill you the whole day. So if i feel something ot be conveyed i feel tortured. my husbacnd told that i am about to give 10 k to my parents. "NOW HE WANTED TO CONVER THAT I THINK TO GIVE 10K TO MY PARENTS TO HIS MOTHER WHICH IS A MENTAL TORTURE FOR ME - PLEASE ADVICE , AM I TAKING THE WRONG WAY . DO I HAVE TO CHANGE MY THOUHGTS. I FEAR TO FACE HER NON ACCEPTANCE. I DONT TO SEE ANY SARCASTIC SMILE , LOOK OR PHRASE FROM HER""