Im living and settled in India..as Stay at home mom of toddler in joint family it gets really hectic and there is just so much work to do... I have arranged part time maid who comes for an hour for sweeping mopping utensils and washroom floor cleaning so I can get some relief from household chores.. My husband doesn't have much time to help due to long travels and work stress..in laws also are old and from their end they are having health and age limitations too..hence we hired maid so we can get little help with chores.. We have washing machine but dishwasher is not affordable and family members too don't like dishwasher...also I'm not working and not financially independant and have very little say in household expenditures... But we are facing issues with behaviour of maids who worked with us from past 1-2 years.. In our area maids charge a certain fixed rate for each work like sweeping n mopping, utensil etc..so we have to pay as per that..we used to talk and discuss about the work done and arrange maid according to work that we need and salary that both agree on according to rate... I'm mostly simple calm polite soft spoken person who doesnt get into conflict with others unless situation demands..we provide food regularly, cash n gifts during festivals, etc and raise salary after decent interval like one year completion...leaves given for sickness and personal emergency without questioning..even leave taken without informing I don't question them if they have genuine reason like fever.. But what is happening is that after a maid joins for work, for few weeks she does properly then starts complaining that there is so much work,so much time consuming and back and hand paining to do mopping etc...and they ask for raise in salary ...not even reasonable amount but drastically bigger amount of money...and get irritated if not given and purposely mess up the work and say that they'll do properly only if more cash is given... I thought it's their usual behaviour and I don't get into fights but politely respectfully used to deal.. But of late since many months I m having good network with others ladies in my flat complex, and neighbours etc..When I visit their homes and see kitchens I see the amount of vessels they put for wash to their maid, I,e two sinks one in kitchen and other in utility area would be overflowing with vessels...and house would be pretty messy too which takes more effort to clean....they pay more or less same amount of money to maid as salary ...not a bigger amount,.,but they don't face that much problem with maids complaints and maid don't fight that much with them...in contrast we put less vessels for wash, as we wash and reuse and keep house neat to some extent so it can be cleaned easily...I wonder what the maids working in our home complain about.. It's occurring to me that it's my body language that's wrong..maybe they are taking advantage of the fact that I'm new mom with a toddler screaming for my attention and falling sick often and elderly in laws...and that I'm not as outspoken and rude and bold looking as other ladies maybe...I'm noticing with 2-3 maids till now that they just keep asking for money,.even if I increase salary as per their wish they'll ask again after couple of months for more money...but even if extra cash is offered they're not ready to come in evening to wash vessels even if there is festival or some guest has come...not even adjusting if there is an emergency like not well or need to go to clinic etc.. If I don't have maid I'll have to do everything and it'll take toll on my health and well being..as I already feel weak and have couple of health issues..in laws will travel very often and considering age I can't expect much support.. Request ladies living in India to let me know how you deal with such issue... Those who criticise me for hiring maid or think I'm lazy pls think twice before putting any harsh remarks..and give me tips for being more assertive in such situations..